Krista Detloff

First post: Jun 16, 2022 Latest post: Jul 5, 2022
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Krista was diagnosed with Lung Cancer in 2019.  She had her left lower lobe of her lung removed and then followed up with some aggressive chemo therapy.  After a number of follow-up visits and additional scans, they declared she was cancer free and she was able to ring the cancer free bell at the Roger Maris Cancer Center.  

She started to experience a nagging pain in her back. In January of 2021, additional scans were completed and we learned that her right adrenal gland had become cancerous along with a couple other spots on her liver, rib bone, and both lungs. We hit her adrenal gland with radiation and she was able to get some relief for a while.  We continued to meet with our oncologist at Roger Maris and the Mayo Clinic and tried a number of different chemo and immunotherapies.  

About four weeks ago, she ended up at the Sanford Hospital for jaundice.  We learned a tumor had grown and was pushing her bile duct closed.  They successfully put a stent in and that cleared up the jaundice.  She was released from Sanford and we were planning on going to Rochester for our next scan and plan our next treatment.  Three hours after being released, we ended up back at Sanford and she was admitted for an infection.  After doing almost every test possible and additional scans, we learned that we are at the end of the road and out of options.  Any additional chemo therapy treatments would be too hard on her and would likely kill her.
In order for her to have the best quality of life, we made the decision to bring her home and she is under hospice care. She is being surrounded by friends and family and she is actively participating in planning her celebration of life ceremony for when that time comes. 

Our coworkers, friends, and family have picked us up so many times by pitching in when we needed help and surprising us with fundraisers or even travel gift cards.  Last year, Krista and I went to Key West and Bar Harbor, Maine/Boston & Salem, Massachusetts.  She loved to travel and was a great planner of all things fun for our family!  We also had several more trips to Arizona but the last couple were very hard on her.  While her situation is horrible and very hard to watch her slip away, I keep reminding myself of the blessing she has been the last 30 years that we have been together.  I haven't always been the best partner to her as I was focused on myself and my career but she never lost sight of what mattered to her the most, her family!  She has been my primary focus the last six months and I have done as much as I can for her without any grumbling as I know the day will come where I will wish I could do it all over again and not be able to.

She is comfortable and not in any pain currently.  She is talking a lot in her sleep but I don't know what she is saying as she is mumbling.  Occasionally she floats between reality and whatever world she is talking in.  There are body tremors that seem to be increasing in intensity and she's on oxygen.  She has to utilize a walker to get to the bathroom and a wheelchair if we go anywhere else.  

Hug your loved ones and don't put off doing the fun things until you have more time or more money as the day will come where you will wish you would have taken that trip earlier.  I have so many great memories of everything we have done recently and my only regret is that I didn't do them sooner.

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