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Apr 8, 2018
Welcome to our CaringBridge website. We are using it to keep family and friends updated in one place. We appreciate your support and words of hope and encouragement. Thank you for visiting. I never would have guessed cancer would be part of my story. This all happened very, very fast for me. I had swelling in my right breast, talked to a dear friend who has recently gone through breast cancer, called her doctor, they told me to rush in, they rushed me to get a mammogram, then I rushed to get biopsies... then on to a surgeon for full diagnosis. I have Stage III Invasive Ductal Carcinoma in my right breast that has spread to my lymph nodes and my left breast. It is an aggressive cancer, however it is not in my liver, lungs, or left lymph nodes yet which is positive. Dr. Widner said the Staging process is very dated and they are going to be re-doing it within the next year or so to be more up to date with all of the advances they've made in cancer research. We are waiting on a few more tests that will come early next week, and then I will meet with my oncologist and surgeon to decide whether I start with chemo or surgery. We know it will be a mastectomy for sure, we're just waiting to see if we'll do a full or bilateral. Sometimes they start with chemo to shrink the cancer before surgery. Radiation always goes last after surgery. Luckily I have a couple options for reconstruction. My surgeon is smart, calm, kind and she talked to me like I was the same. I can understand after talking to her every cancer story is very, very different. She has put my cancer on the agenda of a tumor conference next week in which she'll be meeting with my oncologist and many other experts. All personal life affects aside, the process is very interesting and I respect how they are looking at it so specifically, almost like they're getting to know it...like a person. Every diagnosis is a bit different from the next as everyone's body, family history and environment are different. I respect my doctors and will follow and trust their guidance. Right now the thought of a support group is overwhelming to me, I might look at it in the future but not now. I want to be and feel like life is "normal" just for a bit longer. I've been very lucky to have a couple people to reach out to and ask for clarification and tips from along the way. I think the hard part of wrapping your mind around cancer is realizing life doesn't stop or pause while you deal with it. You have to keep everything moving... work, the kids, relationships, $, memories, license plates, maintenance. The boys are doing great and know now and I did my best to follow recommendations of how to handle it with them. We wanted to do this page because sometimes I run out of juice to talk to everyone about it, because I know people care and want to know, because I know I'm going to need help and I'm really, really crappy at asking for it and as Jeremy doesn't know all of you, this will give him a way to communicate as well. I feel very lucky to have so much love and support. I will need some help along the way when Jeremy is busy with work and unable to be here. Don't be surprised if we reach out to those of you that of you that have offered help, we will definitely need an extra helping hand from time to time. Stay tuned for updates and thank you so much for the support.