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Jan 23, 2021
Jan is my wife, best friend and mother of our boys Christopher & Corey. You all know her some from childhood, some through high school and college. Many others from work, the neighborhood and in many other ways. I met Jan in July 1986 shortly after the July 4th holiday. she was helping her friend, Stacey and her husband Matt, move into an apartment in the same building that my brother and I were living. It was love at first sight. We dated for several years and had some rough times but Jan saw us through them and stayed with me even though I didn't deserve it. We were married Sep, 23, 1989 at St. Anthony's Catholic Church in Nanuet. We moved to Asheville NC in Aug 1994 so I could return to college for my degree. Jan worked to support the family during this time. When I got my degree Jan returned to college for her degree in Industrial and Engineering Management. She worked for Eaton, Volvo, Tyco, Borg-Warner and Pentair. She got breast cancer in 2014 and ended up having a mastectomy. Several reconstructive surgeries under anesthesia and she started forgetting stuff. Her oncologist reffered us to a neurologist. Jan was diagnosed with Dementia in Dec 2015. A neuropsychologist further diagnosed her with Alzheimer's Disease with Frontotemporal dementia with primary progressive aphasia variant, which affects the speech. It was deviating to say the least but we decided to enroll in some medical trials, of which didn't do anything. We modified her diet some but didn't see any results. She stayed active and ran several 5k races over the next 5 years. Her group of close girl friends have been a pillar of strength for us, taking her on girls weekend trips to give me some respite. Those have ended recently but we still see them fairly often, although not so much during the COVID-19 pandemic. Family, friends and faith have sustained us. I know how this journey ends but try to keep Jan happy, healthy and safe. God bless you all for your love and friendship.