Bonnie Capes About our dearest

Our dearest Bonnie has taken the decision to not continue with anymore treatment or nutritional support. She has been having a really rough time over the past three weeks, since she has been in hospital. A scan report yesterday confirmed that despite attempts and trials from a great medical team there were no more options left. Bonnie had made the decision prior to the scan results. She has chosen to stay in hospital with her children, to end her life.

She is comfortable, not in pain and is being well cared for. She is very much at peace in her decision and experiencing a huge amount of relief and we are fully supporting her, as sad as we feel.

We are sorry for the impersonal nature of this message but as you can no doubt imagine, it takes a huge amount of time and energy updating everyone individually particularly as Bon has so many people who are dear to her in her life and is so very loved by a huge number of people.

While we know how hard it must be feeling far away from her, we hope you will appreciate that right now we need to be focused on spending this time with Bon. She has been adamant that she does not want any visitors so, we hope you can appreciate and respect her wishes. She knows she is very loved by all of you and she wants to be remembered for the good times. 

For those of you for whom this all comes as a shock, we are very sorry. Bon has been incredibly strong, brave and stubborn throughout her illness and it has been all about making the most of the good times and not focusing on how unwell she is but rather focusing on the positives, which is one of the many legacies she will leave us. She never wanted it to be all about the cancer and hated focusing on it. While this is an amazing attitude to have, it means that this news will come as a big shock to some of you so we are really sorry to be the bearer of this news.

If you want to pass on any messages to her or Seth, Lara and Risa, you can post them on this website. Unfortunately, we don't have the capacity to respond to everyone individually so we will be using this platform.


We will next send a message on this post once Bonnie has passed and then again once we have plans for her funeral. We can only begin to appreciate how difficult this message is to receive, please know how much she appreciated all your love and good wishes and how important each and every one of her friends and family are to her.

With love,

Risa, Lara, Seth and Jeannie