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Zaida (ZAY-da) turned 3 in September 2007. We learned she has cancer on October 31st. After eight very emotional days in the hospital we learned it was peritoneal carcinomatosis, resembling ovarian cancer and mesothelioma (neither of which should happen to a 3-year-old). She is now 9 and still an energetic and bright girl, even after all she has been through.
Click on 'Read My Story' below for more information about Zaida and how to DONATE TO ZAIDAdirectly through Zac's Legacy where the money will go towards her medical care.
Zaida has been a cancer patient for 6 years! She had 3 years of various chemos and significant surgeries. After this, we had 22 months of remission! Treatment-free! Zaida replapsed in April 2012, and had surgery and radiation (first time for radiation) over the summer.
She is currently finishing up a year of post-radiation chemo, and her doctors are re-evaluating her to determine what's next.
She has a wonderful sister Runa (age 11) and they love to play together (and fight together). Please help support us in creating history - by helping us beat this unique illness. We welcome all the love and support we can get. Please sign our guestbook and read our journal.
There is a fund set up for Zaida's medical care.
Donations can be sent to:
Zac's Legacy Foundation, Inc.
2990 W. 29th Street, Suite 1
Greeley, CO 80631
Please write 'Zaida Mattson' in the memo portion of your check.
Last I wrote, Zaida was refusing to attend school without me and I was continuing to take her every morning to attempt a drop-off. Well, that didn’t get us anywhere.
We got a better idea from a caring family member. She said I should bring her to school and stay and volunteer, in the classroom, until Zaida was comfortable and got used to the school day. I would work (helping teachers with whatever they needed) in Zaida’s classroom, and eventually, I would do work out of the classroom, and transition to being in the room less and less. I thought it was a very promising idea! I talked to the therapist and she could think of no downside, and that if it didn’t work we would be no worse off. So, at the start of October, we started with this new plan. Slowly, but surely, I could see progress. Zaida got more comfortable with the day’s schedule, the classroom, students, and teachers, and I found work to do to help the staff. Win-win!
Here we are just over 4 weeks later. Zaida is doing better and better, but very slowly. At this point, I’m not with her very much during the day, but I’m still in the building, and I check-in with her at certain points during the day, as well as stay with her at certain times. The plan is to cut out those few times when she still feels she needs me.
I didn’t think this would take more than 2 or 3 weeks. I’m not used to this. I’m exhausted. I have not worked full-time since before having kids, and now I have an awesome respect for parents who work. You are heroic! I’m out all day, and the house is still a mess; the laundry, the dishes, the helping with homework, the mail, the bills, the phone calls, the appointments, (and taking the kids to do fun stuff) - everything is still there to be done. My life (such as it was) is on hold, because I don’t have any energy left!
I’ve had a lot of feelings about all of this. I don’t want to be the epitome of a helicopter parent, but that’s exactly what this looks like. I’m very self-conscious about all this. It hit me that I’m embarrassed because I have the time to do this! Why don’t I have a job by now? Because I can’t handle it? Because I would miss a ton of days? Because I don’t know how? Because I’m selfish? Ack!
The point is, Zaida is doing pretty great, and I need to be patient, suck it up, and do it. Sounds like what Zaida needs to do, too.