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Robert Murphy >Jacob's Dad<
Robert Murphy <Jacob's Dad>

Long before there was any indication in your posts about the strain to your relationship(s) my wife and I had already started to specifically pray for God to work on not just protecting or saving your marriage covenant but to arrange it so that covenant could actually be a lifeline to save yourselves in times of need. Those prayers continue to this day as He continues to work in and around you.  There is no one, no one that would willingly step in your shoes nor be strong enough to do so and take over your load. What there is ... Christ alone. We pray you both forgive all the failed "expectations" and God nourishes each of you to remember the person you married.

My wife and I still have a (well several) common battle(s) that we work through and are still in the midst of focusing our energy on, as this past week was a fearful reminder. Our relationship may yet be tested harder in the future than it has in the past but one thing we have learned from being marriage mentors for about 20 years is to be sure to invest in each other and your relationship before tribulations start (that came with a near death experience about 2 weeks after or wedding) and during all the trials. The idea is to remember to strengthen and nourish yourself and each other first and hold hands and hearts so you have a firm equilibrium, like rubber bands the world may stretch, bend, and misshape you but you always return to that equilibrium as you face ...whatever comes.

You both may have been stretched out of shape to the point it is hard to 'feel' you can even see the real other. Your bands are stretched but we pray you both understand that each of you still IS that SAME person you loved when you married. You are battle worn yes but you CAN return to that loving equilibrium.  All of us reading your journal know the love that you both are filled with. We have witnessed it in action. Before you do anything else, turn to each other and focus that energy and love on each other. Do date nights, sit on a swing and just talk. Fine time to cuddle. Give apologies and forgiveness. sit and just look into each others eyes. Hold hands. Make being together your safe zone where you find solace from all the events, pressures, disasters, and pain of past and future.  Then as your garden blooms it will help lift others out of despair.  We know God's greatest gift to each of you is each other. No one knows you and your needs better than Him, enjoy His wisdom and gift.

Hold fast to Hebrews 6:19 ⚓️ 

Sending you love and hugs

 ><>  ><>  ><full>  ><of>  ><Praise>  ><and>  ><Joy> ><>

Love from your Extended Family in Christ ... Robert & Maria Murphy and Amanda, Jacob, Matthew&Chelsea , Cynthia, Brian, Katrina www.caringbridge.org/visit/jacobmurphy/journal

Tammy Gant
Tammy Gant

Good morning, Sarah.
I continue to think of Vinny and your family.   God is so good, and my prayer is that he will continue to comfort you in those times when you miss young Vinny so terribly much.

It has been six years since I was diagnosed; three weeks from the surgery date.  Wow.  I continue to do well.    

Thank you for being such an inspiration to me.  Take care!


Jill Feeney
Jill Feeney
You don't know me, but when I read this article I immediately thought of Vinny. My son loved his Legos too, but not as much as Vinny. I hope they are building huge Lego structures together in the clouds. Michael was 10 when we lost him on November 29, 2013.


http://www.iflscience.com/environment/university-cambridge-recruiting-professor-lego
Tammy Gant
Tammy Gant

Good morning, Sarah.
I continue to think of Vinny and your family.   God is so good, and my prayer is that he will continue to comfort you in those times when you miss young Vinny so terribly much.

It has been six years since I was diagnosed; three weeks from the surgery date.  Wow.  I continue to do well.    

Thank you for being such an inspiration to me.  Take care!


Robert Murphy >Jacob's Dad<
Robert Murphy <Jacob's Dad>

Long before there was any indication in your posts about the strain to your relationship(s) my wife and I had already started to specifically pray for God to work on not just protecting or saving your marriage covenant but to arrange it so that covenant could actually be a lifeline to save yourselves in times of need. Those prayers continue to this day as He continues to work in and around you.  There is no one, no one that would willingly step in your shoes nor be strong enough to do so and take over your load. What there is ... Christ alone. We pray you both forgive all the failed "expectations" and God nourishes each of you to remember the person you married.

My wife and I still have a (well several) common battle(s) that we work through and are still in the midst of focusing our energy on, as this past week was a fearful reminder. Our relationship may yet be tested harder in the future than it has in the past but one thing we have learned from being marriage mentors for about 20 years is to be sure to invest in each other and your relationship before tribulations start (that came with a near death experience about 2 weeks after or wedding) and during all the trials. The idea is to remember to strengthen and nourish yourself and each other first and hold hands and hearts so you have a firm equilibrium, like rubber bands the world may stretch, bend, and misshape you but you always return to that equilibrium as you face ...whatever comes.

You both may have been stretched out of shape to the point it is hard to 'feel' you can even see the real other. Your bands are stretched but we pray you both understand that each of you still IS that SAME person you loved when you married. You are battle worn yes but you CAN return to that loving equilibrium.  All of us reading your journal know the love that you both are filled with. We have witnessed it in action. Before you do anything else, turn to each other and focus that energy and love on each other. Do date nights, sit on a swing and just talk. Fine time to cuddle. Give apologies and forgiveness. sit and just look into each others eyes. Hold hands. Make being together your safe zone where you find solace from all the events, pressures, disasters, and pain of past and future.  Then as your garden blooms it will help lift others out of despair.  We know God's greatest gift to each of you is each other. No one knows you and your needs better than Him, enjoy His wisdom and gift.

Hold fast to Hebrews 6:19 ⚓️ 

Sending you love and hugs

 ><>  ><>  ><full>  ><of>  ><Praise>  ><and>  ><Joy> ><>

Love from your Extended Family in Christ ... Robert & Maria Murphy and Amanda, Jacob, Matthew&Chelsea , Cynthia, Brian, Katrina www.caringbridge.org/visit/jacobmurphy/journal

Jill Feeney
Jill Feeney
You don't know me, but when I read this article I immediately thought of Vinny. My son loved his Legos too, but not as much as Vinny. I hope they are building huge Lego structures together in the clouds. Michael was 10 when we lost him on November 29, 2013.


http://www.iflscience.com/environment/university-cambridge-recruiting-professor-lego
Jill Feeney
Jill Feeney
You don't know me, but when I read this article I immediately thought of Vinny. My son loved his Legos too, but not as much as Vinny. I hope they are building huge Lego structures together in the clouds. Michael was 10 when we lost him on November 29, 2013.


http://www.iflscience.com/environment/university-cambridge-recruiting-professor-lego
Robert Murphy >Jacob's Dad<
Robert Murphy <Jacob's Dad>

Long before there was any indication in your posts about the strain to your relationship(s) my wife and I had already started to specifically pray for God to work on not just protecting or saving your marriage covenant but to arrange it so that covenant could actually be a lifeline to save yourselves in times of need. Those prayers continue to this day as He continues to work in and around you.  There is no one, no one that would willingly step in your shoes nor be strong enough to do so and take over your load. What there is ... Christ alone. We pray you both forgive all the failed "expectations" and God nourishes each of you to remember the person you married.

My wife and I still have a (well several) common battle(s) that we work through and are still in the midst of focusing our energy on, as this past week was a fearful reminder. Our relationship may yet be tested harder in the future than it has in the past but one thing we have learned from being marriage mentors for about 20 years is to be sure to invest in each other and your relationship before tribulations start (that came with a near death experience about 2 weeks after or wedding) and during all the trials. The idea is to remember to strengthen and nourish yourself and each other first and hold hands and hearts so you have a firm equilibrium, like rubber bands the world may stretch, bend, and misshape you but you always return to that equilibrium as you face ...whatever comes.

You both may have been stretched out of shape to the point it is hard to 'feel' you can even see the real other. Your bands are stretched but we pray you both understand that each of you still IS that SAME person you loved when you married. You are battle worn yes but you CAN return to that loving equilibrium.  All of us reading your journal know the love that you both are filled with. We have witnessed it in action. Before you do anything else, turn to each other and focus that energy and love on each other. Do date nights, sit on a swing and just talk. Fine time to cuddle. Give apologies and forgiveness. sit and just look into each others eyes. Hold hands. Make being together your safe zone where you find solace from all the events, pressures, disasters, and pain of past and future.  Then as your garden blooms it will help lift others out of despair.  We know God's greatest gift to each of you is each other. No one knows you and your needs better than Him, enjoy His wisdom and gift.

Hold fast to Hebrews 6:19 ⚓️ 

Sending you love and hugs

 ><>  ><>  ><full>  ><of>  ><Praise>  ><and>  ><Joy> ><>

Love from your Extended Family in Christ ... Robert & Maria Murphy and Amanda, Jacob, Matthew&Chelsea , Cynthia, Brian, Katrina www.caringbridge.org/visit/jacobmurphy/journal

Tammy Gant
Tammy Gant

Good morning, Sarah.
I continue to think of Vinny and your family.   God is so good, and my prayer is that he will continue to comfort you in those times when you miss young Vinny so terribly much.

It has been six years since I was diagnosed; three weeks from the surgery date.  Wow.  I continue to do well.    

Thank you for being such an inspiration to me.  Take care!