Tyler Vitiello's Journal
new year.. new day
Written Jan 3, 2014 10:01pmwe made it! 2014! well 2013 was a year that was one tough year! so three days ago we turned the page , and now begin writing a new chapter. One hopefully filled with beautiful stories and happy endings..
You know these past few days I have been thinking and thinking so much.. It's overwhelming the power of a dream.. For the dreamer, but also for people dreaming along, because you don't give up, you keep dreaming when other people see it too.. with all Tyler is studying, his faith and being willing to work hard and never give up on his dreams, you are all there along side him.. I never thought we would be here today where we are.. I prayed so hard for it every single day.. but it's not something you would dare to dream, but suddenly your standing there together. And you realize we have all prayed for this, together. It is the love of everyone, as much as it is our love that has brought Tyler here today. That is so clear, the love I feel from everyone for him always. Realizing this new years, we had come so far. Many of you have been there since day one, been there and carried me when I needed you the most. I realized just how much it means, how much everyone cares, and anyone that tries to tell you friends,family or dreams don't matter..Well I could tell you different. In ways not alot of people can. Because life is not easy.. sometimes things happen that are out of your control, tear your life upside down and break your heart to where you dont know how or what to do to move forward. I Know for Ty, having a dream is what is so important. And getting him there is our daily prayer. Seeing our son, living , being in college just being Tyler is a dream we never gave up on.. And you all are a part of it.. All your prayers being answered one by one.. They may not all be answered at once I've learned. God has taught us patience,, prayers come answered on a rainy tuesday night when you least expect it.. Like yesterday seeing Tyler come to us and saying he just got his grades posted,,and announcing he got straight A's and made the Dean's list..with my eyes filled with tears he looked at me and i almost fell to my knees thanking God for his blessings ,,Because I know he is leading Tyler to something very special. Then he smiled at me, and I lost it...... No one can make me cry, make me laugh, make me smile and crack up like he does..
It is so much for him... no one knows all he has to deal with on a daily basis... the severity of the injuries that dont go away... He is back at kessler two years out,, back again.. more therapy, more treatments.. All part of his new life, new journey. and this is our new life.. no longer the same life we lived two years ago. Things have changed in so many ways.. some friends are lost along the way,, but many have stuck with us like glue. the glue to help hold us up and all together when we need them the most. Tyler has his whole life ahead, he's just 19.. and so many health issues he faces cannot be helped. But I will not give up hoping, healing continues throughout this long road we are all on. Days and days have gone by this past fall. And seeing him working hard towards his dreams, is evrything to witness. He may want to go on to medical school.. I say THE SKY IS THE LIMIT!!!! YOU CAN DO ANYTHING FOLLOW YOUR HEART! and he has such a big heart.. compassionate, caring, and just so loving.. a heart of gold! :) ..... somedays I see his dreams that are so big, and I know I have to let him try and be whatever he wants to be. My heart is full seeing him smile, being with his friends, and family.. Christmas was wonderful,, you see two years ago xmas eve tyler had 105 fever and was terribly sick.. last year me ol momma bear had the full blown flu.. this year NOONE SICK!! finally! and we had wonderful times with our family. Tyler got to spend time with his godson who is now over 2yrs old and so just adorable. He adores him! Time is going quickly. ALready spring is coming in a few months.. Tyler is entering his second semester of his sophomore year, I remember dropping him off at school.. All I could think is ... there goes my life walking into those college doors.. All he has gone through, so young... and into those doors he walked into his future.. It;s a moment that was so much to take in ,, i can never explain it. But for so many of you, you all know how hard he worked to get there. And how hard he still works every single day..Double what so many others have to face. triple that and add some that's his day.. And he wants more out of life.. Pushing himself to excel, succeed and just try his best.. So many weekend nights were spent in his dorm studying, not going out because he knew he had a big test on Monday and wanted to do well. and it is paying off.. For everyone who is reading this I know you care! I may not see all of you all the time , but when I do I feel your love for y and believe me it means soo much to us. You all know the power of prayer is amazing! everyday we keep praying for continued healing for Tyler and his future! Each day is precious and we re so grateful for him!
Written Jun 23, 2013 10:33pmSorry for the delay of any updates.. I have been getting your emails asking about Ty and we appreciate all of your love and caring words always!!Well where have these months gone.. too quickly.. Tyler has been working so very hard at Montclair State University.. We are so very proud of how truly hard he works and tries every single day.. Montclair has been such an amazing school. His professors, especially have embraced Tyler and truly have his best interest for his future in their hearts. One person shines out especially DR FORD. She has truly been an angel to Tyler and has been trying so hard to find help for Tyler in so many ways.. Truly stepping up and going above and beyond anything we could have dreamed.. She learned of his poikilothermia issues and she didnt just listen, she went out and found help for Tyler. She had contacts with Nike and got tyler special equipment for when he will be doing clinicals in the severe heat to keep his bodies core temperature down so he can participate .. Only made for olympic athletes, she got it for TYLER!! Her kindness has been a blessing.. And his disability coordinator MRs Smith has been an angel. MAking sure he has all his accomidations for school. Making sure everything he needs he has>> Always helping him in anyway she can.. I can't tell you as a mom how important these people have been to us.. Knowing your child is getting what he needs to make their dreams come true is all we can ask for.. I was terrified last year of the unknown. How would he do , how would he function so many things going around and around in our heads. But Montclair truly helps your child get to where they need to be.So a letter came this week that we have been waiting for.. Tyler was officially accepted into the Athletic Training Program..THIS WAS SUCH HUGE NEWS!!!! He worked so very hard this past year and had a very heavy work load. It was not easy, but he had very hard courses. Anatomy's , which were so hard. But he passed and did GREAT.. this last semester he got A's and B;s.. We couldnt be happier for Tyler.. He made wonderful new friends at college. Its like a new start for him.. No one asking him all the time about how he feels, ect. They just know him as TYLER!! which he needed after this past year and a half so much.. I see him growing into such an amazing young man..As for his injuries, yes many are still here. We deal with it on a day to day basis. Sleep issues are huge problem for quite awhile.. He still cannot sleep until 4:30 to 5:00 am every night.. Not an easy thing to deal with being 18 years old. Some days are better than others.. when its very bad for days at a time he needs the meds to try and get him to sleep. He had a huge scare about 3 weeks ago with his back.. It was the week before finals. He called and could hardly move he was in so much pain.. Rushed up to school and straight to the surgeon we went. After he saw him, we had to go to an MRI.. Which the results were not what we wanted to hear. Herniations and the disk is unhealthy and damaged. We always had to face the back issues but it was put on hold as we were dealing with so much else. Now we finally know why hes in pain .. But he had to start accupuncture weekly to try and help the pain.. we try everything and anything .. drugs are not the answer, but neccessary when its really bad.So we are so glad he is home now , and finally getting some much needed rest.. Fall will be here before you know it and back to 14 hr days studying.. This past year was like a blur.. it went so fast I felt it just went by so quickly.. Just always so busy now. we put off alot of dr. visits till the summer and are trying to get situations under control while we have some time now. Its hard when some drs want you to do things that can take 2-3 weeks to try and help a situation ..I know he is so young, and to see his back the way it is in the mri terrifies us. How will he be in a year, 2 years and on.. So we take it day to day and enjoy how far he has come.. Truly so far.. And he loves school. Yes it is very hard, his first semester was a shock, after being our of almost his entire senior year than thrown into a heavy workload of college classes. It took him a bit to get grounded and figure out the work they expect from you.. But it is his passion to help people and he will get there. Slow and steady he will. I always tell him theres no rush.. Do your best thats all we can ask.. And he did great his freshman year. I just want you to all know how thankful we are for the constant emails and questions about ty. It means alot.. We have joined grid iron alliance.. An organization that helps broken neck spinal cord injured athletes. I am proud to say I am part of the new program that is reaching out from chicago to now a national alliance.. we will be helping families deal with catostrophic injuries, how to get the right care, get insurance companies to pay for care, support emotionally, connecting other injured athletes and so much more. the alliance has formed a group MISS mothers imperative for sports safety. the Alliance will be launching a web site with so much help, information, i will put it up once its launched. It is a phenominal organization. They help families get wheelchair accessible vehicles for families in need, help financing home reconstruction that is so needed for wheelchair accomidation.. SO SO MUCH MORE!! and I am so honored and happy to be a part of this ..It is something I know there is such a need for. I wish when Tyler got hurt someone from a group like this came to us.I felt thrown to the wolves fighting for tyler and his care very single day..It was the toughest thing to deal with when your child is so very hurt, you shouldnt worry how things are going to get paid, and drs are being cut off due to insurance burocrocy.. I lived it, I dont knwo how we got through it, but I faught, every day for Tyler.. and still do.. I am working with senators to pass a law in nj to protect our boys. There is alot in the works.. But everyone reading this know I couldnt have gotten this far without your love and support! especially all of those close to us.. you know who you are and your all still here by our side today!! Thanks for loving Tyler.. He is so happy he was accepted into the program and looks forward to his next semester! The national athletic training assn of america is doing an article on tyler this summer . I will post it once its published. This was a huge honor and thanks to Dr. Ford's help it will be published soon.. Well have a great summer , will write soon with more updates!this is a great song to listen to :http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tQGkBspFv3Y
Written Feb 22, 2013 8:02amthis was given to me in a book...... i wanted to share it with you ...for my tylerSHINE OUT LOUD!!WHEN UR UURUNIQUE!Do you have any idea who you really are? Do you have any idea of your effect on others? Do you know what its like to be touched by your loving hugs? To be held in your your glance? To be smiled at by you? Do you even know what it's like when people brush up alongside of you in the streets? To see you from a distance? Up close? Do you know what it's like to see you approaching?Do you know what it does for someone when they realize that you've been thinking of them?No , you don't.Kind of sad. Your insights,beauty,strength,courage, and humility change lives everyday and you don't even know it. It's especially sad because those you touch think you do, so they might not remind you.Since you don't know it and since others may not tell you, let me.YOU ARE A LIGHT IN THE DARKNESS-A BRINGER OF THE DAWN. YOUR TOUCH HEALS,YOUR GAZE INSPIRES,AND YOUR SMILE IS A SHINING LIGHT ON A DARK DAY. THE SITE OF YOU STIRS ONE'S SPIRIT, AND YOUR DEPARTURE IS ALWAYS TOO SOON. YOUR PROUFOUNDLY UNIQUE JOURNEY HAS BEEN ONE-OF-A-KIND, AND IT HAS YIELDED COMPASSION AND INSIGHTS AS RARE AS YOURSELF-GIFTS THAT SPARKLE LIKE DIAMONDS IN THE SUN.YOU ARE A PILLAR,AN ICON, AND A CHAMPION TO THOSE WHO KNOW YOU AND TO THOSE WHO WISH THEY DID. YOUR EFFECT ON THE WORLD TODAY, AS YOU ARE,WHERE YOU ARE-IS AWESOME.SHINE YOUR LIGHT BECAUSE, WHILE YOUR SIGNIFICANCE MAY SOMETIMES ESCAPE YOU, IT CHANGES OTHERS FOREVER!