There is a deep ache. The world you touched grieves for you.
When we met in Open House, I saw your sweet nature immediately and tried to say everything I could to keep you in my life! And as you walked away, I found the right words, and warily, you let me in. The improbable intersection of our lives was to be profound enough to bring you and Donna and Kate to your mountaintop home, to find there your extraordinary neighbors, to celebrate the magic of love in community. I am so blessed to have been a part of that journey.
You and Donna gave freely to comfort me in my own time of loss. You were unimaginably witty. You were vulnerable. You were fully human. You were a magnificent man. It grieves me that I never saw you again after that time, but I will trust now that you knew you were in my heart daily. Thank you, Tom, for saying yes, to me, to life, to love; you have given me a model to strive for in my own life, a gift of immense proportion.
With abiding love,
Dear Donna and Kate,
There is no easy way to describe the deep loss of Tom, your beautiful and loving husband and father. I pray that although he was taken from you decades too soon, the depth of his character, the profound love he felt for you, may, in your deepest sorrow, also bring you peace and even joy. Your strength and steadfast dedication, your compassion, your love…all these you gave to each other and received from each other in equal measure, and that is yours to keep and always will be yours, forever and ever.
In deep sympathy,