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Tamar’s Story

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It's been a year. Time is relentless.

Dear Friends,

It’s been a year since Tamar died. “Sadtimes”, as she would say. We would love your company.  Please come by our home for some laughter and tears, celebrate Tamar’s life, share memories. We’d love to see friends, and friends of Tamar, in the afternoons and evenings (approximately 4-9pm) of January 2-7. We look forward to having you with us in these coming days. Please bring single flower, or ribbon (1-2 ft long), or photo, a “classic Tamar” story, an item, a g-chat snippet, or any tangible or intangible thing you can share. And mostly please bring yourself.


Danny, Maya, Liat, and Netta (and Mindo)

A few loosely planned things, in memory of Tamar :


We invite you to cut ribbons when you are with us. We have cloth remnants that speak of Tamar. On Saturday January 4th at about 4pm, if you can, please meet us at Tamar’s bench (Macalester college, NE corner of tennis courts). We will tie ribbons for Tamar to add colors and liveliness to the bench dedicated to Tamar.If you are far away, do tie ribbons for Tamar wherever you are.


It’s a book Tamar read many times over, often carrying it with her on travels. Something in it resonated. We will read from A Tree Grows in Brooklyn. We’ll just see how it goes, and how far we get. Approximate reading times: 4-4:15pm and 8:45-9pm. Come listen, be with us. 


Yes, nail polish and nail painting  - Tamar enjoyed it, painted her nails casually and often, subscribed to Nail Polish of the Month ‘club’, started toying with the idea of making nail polish herself. We have a collection of nail polish colors, remover, and cotton. We invite you to paint at least one fingernail in memory of Tamar. Bright colors are good, mix it up if you like. If you are far away, post/send us a picture.


After the car crash Tamar was taken to a clinic in Potosi, Bolivia. She died in a small hospital in Oruro, Bolivia. 

Mano-a-Mano, a volunteer powered organization based in St.Paul, MN, builds medical clinics, hospital, schools, water reservoirs and more, in remote Bolivian communities. Many lives in rural Bolivia have been saved, many communities lifted out of poverty.

Up to 20 volunteers can join us.

Date/Time: Tuesday January 7th from 3:30-5:30pm

The task: Sorting unused medical supplies, preparing shipments to Bolivia.

Location: Mano-a-Mano, 925 Pierce Butler Route, St. Paul, MN 55104

If you can volunteer email Maya at


Weather permitting, On Monday or Tuesday (Jan.6 or 7) we will send up illuminated paper balloons (Sky lanterns) with messages, thoughts, kisses, cat faces, etc, for Tamar. Probable location: Como Park (to be confirmed). Time: after sunset.

If it’s too windy/cold/snowy/difficult we’ll postpone this plan to June 25th 2014, Tamar’s 22nd birthday.


Whether you are near or far, if you are moved to help memorialize Tamar, there are now several ways to donate. Absolutely any amount is appreciated. 

1) MDTA Tamar Kaplan Student of the Year Award 

The first one will be given at the Debate State Championship in three weeks,  to a student who is academically strong and a strong debater who also contributes extra to the MN debate community.

Donations can be made at any Wells Fargo bank branch to Tamar Kaplan Memorial, or send a check to 

Tamar Kaplan memorial

Wells Fargo Bank

1827 Grand Ave.

Saint Paul, MN 55105

2) Claremont McKenna College, Tamar Kaplan Memorial Scholarship.

Given to one incoming student every year starting in Fall 2014

If sending a check, write “Tamar Kaplan” in the memo line. Send to:

Development Office

Claremont McKenna College

400 North Claremont Boulevard, #205

Claremont, CA 91711-4015

Or go to

3) Mano-a-Mano

To help fund medical, educational or air rescue projects in Bolivia.

Please go to

Your donation $ go a very long way in Bolivia!

We thank each and every one of you for your care, support, love this past year, and as we continue adjusting to loving Tamar from afar.

Please celebrate Tamar’s presence in this world in any way: Cat Contests, Would You Rather’s, Paint your nails, debate an issue, watch her favorite shows, eat a salad…
Feel free to fill us in on other of Tamar’s favorite activities.
With love, Maya, Danny, Liat, Netta