Steven Sharp's Journal
15months 5 days
Written Oct 1, 2012 10:25pmSteven continues to fight for his recovery and although the progress physically has been slow, he still moves forward. Steven's cognition amazes me and his positive outlook on life is something we can all learn from.
Last week an acquaintance came to the house to say he realized his drinking had turned into a problem and he wanted to apologize for any wrong doing that he may have done through the years. Steven looked the guy in the eye and said "apology accepted. An apology is not needed because you have never done anything to me, but I can tell it is important to you, so for that reason I accept it." I was amazed at Steven's insight to what the person was saying and why he was saying it, but then the guy went on and after awhile he told Steven; "I sit here and look at you. Your a wonderful person and you struggle to get through the day, and then I look at my life and feel bad because I have wasted a lot of years. I wish I could go back and change everything." Steven look the kid in the eye and said, "wishes are not for the past. Yesterday is gone, Today you live, and tomorrow you wish and hope for." That kind of blew me away and gave me a few tears. The acquaintance was also impacted by Stevens words and he said, "your my hero Steven, your incredible." Steven said, "Nah, I am just the guy that has to get up everyday and look in the mirror, and then I have to tell myself that today I am going to do the things I can do and not worry about what I can't do."
There are some days that are hard for Steven and he lets things get him down but he always moves on and tries to do better when the next moment comes. He no longer wishes for the old life; that was yesterday but he hopes that tomorrow he can start a new one. He misses his son, he misses his job, and he misses just hanging out with friends, but he has not lost any of them, he just needs to adapt to a new way of living.
14 1/2 months
Written Sep 9, 2012 2:36pmIt seems like forever since I have made an entry. Steven continues to improve and it is through prayer and unconditional kindness and love from everyone that he makes this remarkable journey. Steven and his father have been traveling an hour away to a nearby town that has a swimming complex, and Steven has had incredible success with walking around the pool. The pool has a "lazy river" and he makes several laps walking against the current. Steven has been wanting to go down the water slide and last week his father helped him up the three flights of stairs and he went down it, all the spectators were very impressed
Steven has been attending several weddings this summer and his friends Cody and Olivia were married yesterday, he had a great time and enjoyed dancing in his wheel chair with the bride and a few friends. The connections are coming slowly but he has come so far. There is still not much use on his right side but with his determination and the fabulous therapist that work with him he continues to make progress. Steven started horseback riding therapy and not only is that bringing enjoyment but it was very successful in having him keep his spine straight and he held onto the reigns with his right hand.
Stevens is off of all of his medications except for something to help him sleep at night and another medicine to help control his acne, for some reason he has a hard time with skin balance and no one is sure why this happens with some brain injury patients and not others..
We continue to work on speech because Steven has most of his cognition back but because of his difficulty with communication people tend to think otherwise.
Stevens father and I continue to work on letting him be a 22 year old adult and Steven enjoys the time he goes off with friends for drives or attend wedding receptions, and other parties by himself.
Thank you to everyone who continues to keep him in your thoughts and prayers and we will be sure and pay it forward.
Love the Sharp family
Written Jun 26, 2012 8:17amI guess time has traveled fast, but at times it has stood still. Steven has had a new world open up with a different kind of work ethics and wonderful people in his life. Last night he had a couple of friends stop by and they were talking about the fishing trips that they did right before the accident, the summer plans of camping, hunting, and riding the dirt bikes. His days are filled with therapy and celebrating motor skills that so many of us take for granted.
Steven thought he would be walking by now and back to work, he thought his speech would be clear and he would be using his right arm to wrestle around on the floor with his son. He has not met those goals yet but he has not given up on them, in the back of his mind he knows those thoughts are not hopes and dreams but more of a reality that is taking longer than he thought.
Steven understands that his life has changed and although it has been difficult to sell his vehicles, move in with his parents, and struggle to brush his teeth or get dressed he pushes on. Riding back from a wedding the other day that he did not want to leave he said "I just want my life back!" after that moment we helped him out of the vehicle, he struggled to get up the ramp, he visited with some friends, took his medicine, and went to bed so he could start his day all over again with no self-pity, just the struggle of being 22 years old trying to be normal in a body and mind that wont let him do the things he wants to.
We have been fortunate to have such good people in his life and the blessings continue to flow. Thank you for sharing the journey with Steven and the Sharp family