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Nancy Devins
Nancy Devins
Greetings Katie, Your post was a surprise in my inbox!  Been a while, huh?  Well girl, we've both spent two plus years trudging through the Widow Wilderness now.  I can see by what you've written that you have been blessed with two valuable gifts: strength and a good attitude.  They didn't come immediately or easily did they?!   Aren't ya glad the worst bottomless-pit-cry-till-you're-dehydrated days are over?!  I sure am.  I hate crying and I've cried enough in the last two years to fill my lifetime cry quota!  Every good cry brought a wee bit more healing though.  It sounds like you can think & talk about your best friend without loosing it now.  Me too.  We will always think about them, our best friend husbands were the other half of us!  And you don't forget the one that completed you.  It's wonderful that you are filling Charlie Mae's heart with rich stories about her Daddy, what a legacy.  Memories are precious. Sounds like we've both turned a corner in the grief process.  Look at you... moving all the way to the left coast to begin a new chapter in your life.  Good for you!  That took courage.  I've found it very therapeutic conquering something new as a widow.  You've conquered a lot!   We're ready to move forward.  Have you had well meaning people asking you bold questions about your plans to marry again?  I have, and I'm not young like you!!!  (Some folks just don't know what to say to widows!)  The first year I thought "no way".  Now, after healing from the hole in my heart, I realize I'm not wired to be alone the rest of my life.  So I've been talking to the Lord about sending me a godly widower who's well off, slightly blind, and was married to an obese wife.  (At my age, the latter two work in my favor)  If the Lord wills, it'll happen. Otherwise, here's what I know: -God is good -God is near to the broken hearted -God provides all my needs physically, emothionally and spiritually -Instead of crying in my beer about becoming a widow, it's more beneficial to praise God for the GREAT 36 year marriage I enjoyed -Laughter is good medicine -Support from family and friends is a blessing from the Lord -Using power tools and shooting my shotgun are great stress relievers -Were it not for the renewal of Gods word and the strength of Gods grace, I could not do this thing called widowhood without some serious drugs Well Katie, I'm glad you are healing and holding your head up... you go girl!  love in Jesus, Peter's mum
Nancy Devins
Nancy Devins
Greetings Katie, Your post was a surprise in my inbox!  Been a while, huh?  Well girl, we've both spent two plus years trudging through the Widow Wilderness now.  I can see by what you've written that you have been blessed with two valuable gifts: strength and a good attitude.  They didn't come immediately or easily did they?!   Aren't ya glad the worst bottomless-pit-cry-till-you're-dehydrated days are over?!  I sure am.  I hate crying and I've cried enough in the last two years to fill my lifetime cry quota!  Every good cry brought a wee bit more healing though.  It sounds like you can think & talk about your best friend without loosing it now.  Me too.  We will always think about them, our best friend husbands were the other half of us!  And you don't forget the one that completed you.  It's wonderful that you are filling Charlie Mae's heart with rich stories about her Daddy, what a legacy.  Memories are precious. Sounds like we've both turned a corner in the grief process.  Look at you... moving all the way to the left coast to begin a new chapter in your life.  Good for you!  That took courage.  I've found it very therapeutic conquering something new as a widow.  You've conquered a lot!   We're ready to move forward.  Have you had well meaning people asking you bold questions about your plans to marry again?  I have, and I'm not young like you!!!  (Some folks just don't know what to say to widows!)  The first year I thought "no way".  Now, after healing from the hole in my heart, I realize I'm not wired to be alone the rest of my life.  So I've been talking to the Lord about sending me a godly widower who's well off, slightly blind, and was married to an obese wife.  (At my age, the latter two work in my favor)  If the Lord wills, it'll happen. Otherwise, here's what I know: -God is good -God is near to the broken hearted -God provides all my needs physically, emothionally and spiritually -Instead of crying in my beer about becoming a widow, it's more beneficial to praise God for the GREAT 36 year marriage I enjoyed -Laughter is good medicine -Support from family and friends is a blessing from the Lord -Using power tools and shooting my shotgun are great stress relievers -Were it not for the renewal of Gods word and the strength of Gods grace, I could not do this thing called widowhood without some serious drugs Well Katie, I'm glad you are healing and holding your head up... you go girl!  love in Jesus, Peter's mum
Barbara Murphy
Barbara Murphy
What a wonderful surprise!   But where have the past 2 years gone???   How good to hear that you ars doing so well and that happiness has followed you to CA!!  Enjoy!   What a blessed gift that little one is to you.  God gives us so many special blessings, doesn't He??   Have a super summer!   Barbara Murphy Sarasota Baptist, Sarasota, FL
Barbara Murphy
Barbara Murphy
What a wonderful surprise!   But where have the past 2 years gone???   How good to hear that you ars doing so well and that happiness has followed you to CA!!  Enjoy!   What a blessed gift that little one is to you.  God gives us so many special blessings, doesn't He??   Have a super summer!   Barbara Murphy Sarasota Baptist, Sarasota, FL
Claudia Hicks
Claudia Hicks
Sorry if this is a duplicate...the system signed me out!!   Hi Katie! Thanks for the wonderful post.  I had been thinking about you this morning and then this post popped up! It is so great to hear that you are happy and that your new home in southern California suits you and Charlie so well - she is a very lucky little girl to have you as a mom!  And I have no doubt that you both always feel Shawn's presence. It is the greatest gift we have - and I continue to believe that Will and Shawn are great friends (and cancer free :-)) in heaven - always watching down on us.  Please know that I think of all of you often, and I cherish the memories we have from 2010 - Shawn and Will were so lucky to have each other during their battles. xoxo Love to you both,   Claudia
Claudia Hicks
Claudia Hicks
Sorry if this is a duplicate...the system signed me out!!   Hi Katie! Thanks for the wonderful post.  I had been thinking about you this morning and then this post popped up! It is so great to hear that you are happy and that your new home in southern California suits you and Charlie so well - she is a very lucky little girl to have you as a mom!  And I have no doubt that you both always feel Shawn's presence. It is the greatest gift we have - and I continue to believe that Will and Shawn are great friends (and cancer free :-)) in heaven - always watching down on us.  Please know that I think of all of you often, and I cherish the memories we have from 2010 - Shawn and Will were so lucky to have each other during their battles. xoxo Love to you both,   Claudia
Cindy Silvestri
Cindy Silvestri
I never met you or Shawn, but have followed your journal since you and Shawn began it.  Katie, there is no doubt of your strength and Charlie is blessed to have you in her life and the beautiful memories of her Father.  I will continue to follow you as you write.  And your friend is correct.  You need to write a book ! Still in my prayers, Cindy Silvestri   
Cindy Silvestri
Cindy Silvestri
I never met you or Shawn, but have followed your journal since you and Shawn began it.  Katie, there is no doubt of your strength and Charlie is blessed to have you in her life and the beautiful memories of her Father.  I will continue to follow you as you write.  And your friend is correct.  You need to write a book ! Still in my prayers, Cindy Silvestri   
charles grund jr
charles grund jr
the world is a better place.... we are a better people.... we are better friends... we are better lovers.... we are better strangers.... we are better, i am better.... for knowing mr. shawn koch.... miss you brother!!!! charles grund jr these words ring more true everyday my man.  miss you kid.
charles grund jr
charles grund jr
the world is a better place.... we are a better people.... we are better friends... we are better lovers.... we are better strangers.... we are better, i am better.... for knowing mr. shawn koch.... miss you brother!!!! charles grund jr these words ring more true everyday my man.  miss you kid.
sherry hayes
sherry hayes
katie, You continue to be in my daily prayers, I ask God to lift up your spirits and heal your heart.  No one will ever take the place of your shawn, however I ask God to fill the emptyness you have with hope for your future.  May this season find you and your precious daughter happy, healthy, spending time with friends and family.  Prayers of Peace  
sherry hayes
sherry hayes
katie, You continue to be in my daily prayers, I ask God to lift up your spirits and heal your heart.  No one will ever take the place of your shawn, however I ask God to fill the emptyness you have with hope for your future.  May this season find you and your precious daughter happy, healthy, spending time with friends and family.  Prayers of Peace  
Nancy Devins
Nancy Devins
Greetings Katie, Your post was a surprise in my inbox!  Been a while, huh?  Well girl, we've both spent two plus years trudging through the Widow Wilderness now.  I can see by what you've written that you have been blessed with two valuable gifts: strength and a good attitude.  They didn't come immediately or easily did they?!   Aren't ya glad the worst bottomless-pit-cry-till-you're-dehydrated days are over?!  I sure am.  I hate crying and I've cried enough in the last two years to fill my lifetime cry quota!  Every good cry brought a wee bit more healing though.  It sounds like you can think & talk about your best friend without loosing it now.  Me too.  We will always think about them, our best friend husbands were the other half of us!  And you don't forget the one that completed you.  It's wonderful that you are filling Charlie Mae's heart with rich stories about her Daddy, what a legacy.  Memories are precious. Sounds like we've both turned a corner in the grief process.  Look at you... moving all the way to the left coast to begin a new chapter in your life.  Good for you!  That took courage.  I've found it very therapeutic conquering something new as a widow.  You've conquered a lot!   We're ready to move forward.  Have you had well meaning people asking you bold questions about your plans to marry again?  I have, and I'm not young like you!!!  (Some folks just don't know what to say to widows!)  The first year I thought "no way".  Now, after healing from the hole in my heart, I realize I'm not wired to be alone the rest of my life.  So I've been talking to the Lord about sending me a godly widower who's well off, slightly blind, and was married to an obese wife.  (At my age, the latter two work in my favor)  If the Lord wills, it'll happen. Otherwise, here's what I know: -God is good -God is near to the broken hearted -God provides all my needs physically, emothionally and spiritually -Instead of crying in my beer about becoming a widow, it's more beneficial to praise God for the GREAT 36 year marriage I enjoyed -Laughter is good medicine -Support from family and friends is a blessing from the Lord -Using power tools and shooting my shotgun are great stress relievers -Were it not for the renewal of Gods word and the strength of Gods grace, I could not do this thing called widowhood without some serious drugs Well Katie, I'm glad you are healing and holding your head up... you go girl!  love in Jesus, Peter's mum
Barbara Murphy
Barbara Murphy
What a wonderful surprise!   But where have the past 2 years gone???   How good to hear that you ars doing so well and that happiness has followed you to CA!!  Enjoy!   What a blessed gift that little one is to you.  God gives us so many special blessings, doesn't He??   Have a super summer!   Barbara Murphy Sarasota Baptist, Sarasota, FL
Claudia Hicks
Claudia Hicks
Sorry if this is a duplicate...the system signed me out!!   Hi Katie! Thanks for the wonderful post.  I had been thinking about you this morning and then this post popped up! It is so great to hear that you are happy and that your new home in southern California suits you and Charlie so well - she is a very lucky little girl to have you as a mom!  And I have no doubt that you both always feel Shawn's presence. It is the greatest gift we have - and I continue to believe that Will and Shawn are great friends (and cancer free :-)) in heaven - always watching down on us.  Please know that I think of all of you often, and I cherish the memories we have from 2010 - Shawn and Will were so lucky to have each other during their battles. xoxo Love to you both,   Claudia
Cindy Silvestri
Cindy Silvestri
I never met you or Shawn, but have followed your journal since you and Shawn began it.  Katie, there is no doubt of your strength and Charlie is blessed to have you in her life and the beautiful memories of her Father.  I will continue to follow you as you write.  And your friend is correct.  You need to write a book ! Still in my prayers, Cindy Silvestri   
charles grund jr
charles grund jr
the world is a better place.... we are a better people.... we are better friends... we are better lovers.... we are better strangers.... we are better, i am better.... for knowing mr. shawn koch.... miss you brother!!!! charles grund jr these words ring more true everyday my man.  miss you kid.
sherry hayes
sherry hayes
katie, You continue to be in my daily prayers, I ask God to lift up your spirits and heal your heart.  No one will ever take the place of your shawn, however I ask God to fill the emptyness you have with hope for your future.  May this season find you and your precious daughter happy, healthy, spending time with friends and family.  Prayers of Peace  
Nancy Devins
Nancy Devins
Greetings Katie, Your post was a surprise in my inbox!  Been a while, huh?  Well girl, we've both spent two plus years trudging through the Widow Wilderness now.  I can see by what you've written that you have been blessed with two valuable gifts: strength and a good attitude.  They didn't come immediately or easily did they?!   Aren't ya glad the worst bottomless-pit-cry-till-you're-dehydrated days are over?!  I sure am.  I hate crying and I've cried enough in the last two years to fill my lifetime cry quota!  Every good cry brought a wee bit more healing though.  It sounds like you can think & talk about your best friend without loosing it now.  Me too.  We will always think about them, our best friend husbands were the other half of us!  And you don't forget the one that completed you.  It's wonderful that you are filling Charlie Mae's heart with rich stories about her Daddy, what a legacy.  Memories are precious. Sounds like we've both turned a corner in the grief process.  Look at you... moving all the way to the left coast to begin a new chapter in your life.  Good for you!  That took courage.  I've found it very therapeutic conquering something new as a widow.  You've conquered a lot!   We're ready to move forward.  Have you had well meaning people asking you bold questions about your plans to marry again?  I have, and I'm not young like you!!!  (Some folks just don't know what to say to widows!)  The first year I thought "no way".  Now, after healing from the hole in my heart, I realize I'm not wired to be alone the rest of my life.  So I've been talking to the Lord about sending me a godly widower who's well off, slightly blind, and was married to an obese wife.  (At my age, the latter two work in my favor)  If the Lord wills, it'll happen. Otherwise, here's what I know: -God is good -God is near to the broken hearted -God provides all my needs physically, emothionally and spiritually -Instead of crying in my beer about becoming a widow, it's more beneficial to praise God for the GREAT 36 year marriage I enjoyed -Laughter is good medicine -Support from family and friends is a blessing from the Lord -Using power tools and shooting my shotgun are great stress relievers -Were it not for the renewal of Gods word and the strength of Gods grace, I could not do this thing called widowhood without some serious drugs Well Katie, I'm glad you are healing and holding your head up... you go girl!  love in Jesus, Peter's mum
Barbara Murphy
Barbara Murphy
What a wonderful surprise!   But where have the past 2 years gone???   How good to hear that you ars doing so well and that happiness has followed you to CA!!  Enjoy!   What a blessed gift that little one is to you.  God gives us so many special blessings, doesn't He??   Have a super summer!   Barbara Murphy Sarasota Baptist, Sarasota, FL
Claudia Hicks
Claudia Hicks
Sorry if this is a duplicate...the system signed me out!!   Hi Katie! Thanks for the wonderful post.  I had been thinking about you this morning and then this post popped up! It is so great to hear that you are happy and that your new home in southern California suits you and Charlie so well - she is a very lucky little girl to have you as a mom!  And I have no doubt that you both always feel Shawn's presence. It is the greatest gift we have - and I continue to believe that Will and Shawn are great friends (and cancer free :-)) in heaven - always watching down on us.  Please know that I think of all of you often, and I cherish the memories we have from 2010 - Shawn and Will were so lucky to have each other during their battles. xoxo Love to you both,   Claudia
Cindy Silvestri
Cindy Silvestri
I never met you or Shawn, but have followed your journal since you and Shawn began it.  Katie, there is no doubt of your strength and Charlie is blessed to have you in her life and the beautiful memories of her Father.  I will continue to follow you as you write.  And your friend is correct.  You need to write a book ! Still in my prayers, Cindy Silvestri   
charles grund jr
charles grund jr
the world is a better place.... we are a better people.... we are better friends... we are better lovers.... we are better strangers.... we are better, i am better.... for knowing mr. shawn koch.... miss you brother!!!! charles grund jr these words ring more true everyday my man.  miss you kid.
sherry hayes
sherry hayes
katie, You continue to be in my daily prayers, I ask God to lift up your spirits and heal your heart.  No one will ever take the place of your shawn, however I ask God to fill the emptyness you have with hope for your future.  May this season find you and your precious daughter happy, healthy, spending time with friends and family.  Prayers of Peace  
Nancy Devins
Nancy Devins
Greetings Katie, Your post was a surprise in my inbox!  Been a while, huh?  Well girl, we've both spent two plus years trudging through the Widow Wilderness now.  I can see by what you've written that you have been blessed with two valuable gifts: strength and a good attitude.  They didn't come immediately or easily did they?!   Aren't ya glad the worst bottomless-pit-cry-till-you're-dehydrated days are over?!  I sure am.  I hate crying and I've cried enough in the last two years to fill my lifetime cry quota!  Every good cry brought a wee bit more healing though.  It sounds like you can think & talk about your best friend without loosing it now.  Me too.  We will always think about them, our best friend husbands were the other half of us!  And you don't forget the one that completed you.  It's wonderful that you are filling Charlie Mae's heart with rich stories about her Daddy, what a legacy.  Memories are precious. Sounds like we've both turned a corner in the grief process.  Look at you... moving all the way to the left coast to begin a new chapter in your life.  Good for you!  That took courage.  I've found it very therapeutic conquering something new as a widow.  You've conquered a lot!   We're ready to move forward.  Have you had well meaning people asking you bold questions about your plans to marry again?  I have, and I'm not young like you!!!  (Some folks just don't know what to say to widows!)  The first year I thought "no way".  Now, after healing from the hole in my heart, I realize I'm not wired to be alone the rest of my life.  So I've been talking to the Lord about sending me a godly widower who's well off, slightly blind, and was married to an obese wife.  (At my age, the latter two work in my favor)  If the Lord wills, it'll happen. Otherwise, here's what I know: -God is good -God is near to the broken hearted -God provides all my needs physically, emothionally and spiritually -Instead of crying in my beer about becoming a widow, it's more beneficial to praise God for the GREAT 36 year marriage I enjoyed -Laughter is good medicine -Support from family and friends is a blessing from the Lord -Using power tools and shooting my shotgun are great stress relievers -Were it not for the renewal of Gods word and the strength of Gods grace, I could not do this thing called widowhood without some serious drugs Well Katie, I'm glad you are healing and holding your head up... you go girl!  love in Jesus, Peter's mum
Barbara Murphy
Barbara Murphy
What a wonderful surprise!   But where have the past 2 years gone???   How good to hear that you ars doing so well and that happiness has followed you to CA!!  Enjoy!   What a blessed gift that little one is to you.  God gives us so many special blessings, doesn't He??   Have a super summer!   Barbara Murphy Sarasota Baptist, Sarasota, FL
Claudia Hicks
Claudia Hicks
Sorry if this is a duplicate...the system signed me out!!   Hi Katie! Thanks for the wonderful post.  I had been thinking about you this morning and then this post popped up! It is so great to hear that you are happy and that your new home in southern California suits you and Charlie so well - she is a very lucky little girl to have you as a mom!  And I have no doubt that you both always feel Shawn's presence. It is the greatest gift we have - and I continue to believe that Will and Shawn are great friends (and cancer free :-)) in heaven - always watching down on us.  Please know that I think of all of you often, and I cherish the memories we have from 2010 - Shawn and Will were so lucky to have each other during their battles. xoxo Love to you both,   Claudia
Cindy Silvestri
Cindy Silvestri
I never met you or Shawn, but have followed your journal since you and Shawn began it.  Katie, there is no doubt of your strength and Charlie is blessed to have you in her life and the beautiful memories of her Father.  I will continue to follow you as you write.  And your friend is correct.  You need to write a book ! Still in my prayers, Cindy Silvestri   
charles grund jr
charles grund jr
the world is a better place.... we are a better people.... we are better friends... we are better lovers.... we are better strangers.... we are better, i am better.... for knowing mr. shawn koch.... miss you brother!!!! charles grund jr these words ring more true everyday my man.  miss you kid.
Nancy Devins
Nancy Devins
Greetings Katie, Your post was a surprise in my inbox!  Been a while, huh?  Well girl, we've both spent two plus years trudging through the Widow Wilderness now.  I can see by what you've written that you have been blessed with two valuable gifts: strength and a good attitude.  They didn't come immediately or easily did they?!   Aren't ya glad the worst bottomless-pit-cry-till-you're-dehydrated days are over?!  I sure am.  I hate crying and I've cried enough in the last two years to fill my lifetime cry quota!  Every good cry brought a wee bit more healing though.  It sounds like you can think & talk about your best friend without loosing it now.  Me too.  We will always think about them, our best friend husbands were the other half of us!  And you don't forget the one that completed you.  It's wonderful that you are filling Charlie Mae's heart with rich stories about her Daddy, what a legacy.  Memories are precious. Sounds like we've both turned a corner in the grief process.  Look at you... moving all the way to the left coast to begin a new chapter in your life.  Good for you!  That took courage.  I've found it very therapeutic conquering something new as a widow.  You've conquered a lot!   We're ready to move forward.  Have you had well meaning people asking you bold questions about your plans to marry again?  I have, and I'm not young like you!!!  (Some folks just don't know what to say to widows!)  The first year I thought "no way".  Now, after healing from the hole in my heart, I realize I'm not wired to be alone the rest of my life.  So I've been talking to the Lord about sending me a godly widower who's well off, slightly blind, and was married to an obese wife.  (At my age, the latter two work in my favor)  If the Lord wills, it'll happen. Otherwise, here's what I know: -God is good -God is near to the broken hearted -God provides all my needs physically, emothionally and spiritually -Instead of crying in my beer about becoming a widow, it's more beneficial to praise God for the GREAT 36 year marriage I enjoyed -Laughter is good medicine -Support from family and friends is a blessing from the Lord -Using power tools and shooting my shotgun are great stress relievers -Were it not for the renewal of Gods word and the strength of Gods grace, I could not do this thing called widowhood without some serious drugs Well Katie, I'm glad you are healing and holding your head up... you go girl!  love in Jesus, Peter's mum
Cindy Silvestri
Cindy Silvestri
I never met you or Shawn, but have followed your journal since you and Shawn began it.  Katie, there is no doubt of your strength and Charlie is blessed to have you in her life and the beautiful memories of her Father.  I will continue to follow you as you write.  And your friend is correct.  You need to write a book ! Still in my prayers, Cindy Silvestri   
sherry hayes
sherry hayes
katie, You continue to be in my daily prayers, I ask God to lift up your spirits and heal your heart.  No one will ever take the place of your shawn, however I ask God to fill the emptyness you have with hope for your future.  May this season find you and your precious daughter happy, healthy, spending time with friends and family.  Prayers of Peace  
Barbara Murphy
Barbara Murphy
What a wonderful surprise!   But where have the past 2 years gone???   How good to hear that you ars doing so well and that happiness has followed you to CA!!  Enjoy!   What a blessed gift that little one is to you.  God gives us so many special blessings, doesn't He??   Have a super summer!   Barbara Murphy Sarasota Baptist, Sarasota, FL
Claudia Hicks
Claudia Hicks
Sorry if this is a duplicate...the system signed me out!!   Hi Katie! Thanks for the wonderful post.  I had been thinking about you this morning and then this post popped up! It is so great to hear that you are happy and that your new home in southern California suits you and Charlie so well - she is a very lucky little girl to have you as a mom!  And I have no doubt that you both always feel Shawn's presence. It is the greatest gift we have - and I continue to believe that Will and Shawn are great friends (and cancer free :-)) in heaven - always watching down on us.  Please know that I think of all of you often, and I cherish the memories we have from 2010 - Shawn and Will were so lucky to have each other during their battles. xoxo Love to you both,   Claudia
charles grund jr
charles grund jr
the world is a better place.... we are a better people.... we are better friends... we are better lovers.... we are better strangers.... we are better, i am better.... for knowing mr. shawn koch.... miss you brother!!!! charles grund jr these words ring more true everyday my man.  miss you kid.
sherry hayes
sherry hayes
katie, You continue to be in my daily prayers, I ask God to lift up your spirits and heal your heart.  No one will ever take the place of your shawn, however I ask God to fill the emptyness you have with hope for your future.  May this season find you and your precious daughter happy, healthy, spending time with friends and family.  Prayers of Peace