Diario de Paxton Andrews
Oh heart. Oh heart. Ours to yours...
Escrito el Aug 30, 2012 9:20am por Danna Andrews
This is the most difficult thank you letter we will ever write. No matter how long we reflect, how often we rewrite, how many times we revise - words can only fall short. We will never be able to adequately express our profound gratitude for the unwavering support that has been bestowed upon us. We remain humbly grateful, and infinitely indebted, for the outpouring of love and innumerable acts of humanity we have received.
After hearing the stunning news of Paxton’s diagnosis - countless members of our community swiftly & readily enlisted in what would soon be quipped, Paxton’s “Army of Love”. Among them - a vast array of: family, friends, co-workers, former classmates, clients, students, doctors, nurses, pastors, “friends of friends”, and complete strangers. Although they did not know one another, a common thread instantly tethered them: the desire to fight cancer alongside our precious, Peaceful Warrior. They joined hands, stood hip to hip, and formed a frontline. Without uttering a single word they confidently proclaimed, “We are ready.”
Our new reality rendered us disoriented from a haze of limitless fear, suffocated by unparalleled anguish, and immobilized in unprecedented grief. However, we remained keenly aware that a steady current of love was enveloping around us. We received cards, text messages, emails, phone calls offering love and support throughout each day, and every night. We were given notes, written on scraps of paper and left at the front desk of Children’s Hospital, when visitation could not be granted. An online calendar was made, shared, and monitored to ensure we had a dinner each evening. Multiple gift cards, goodie bags, groceries, and home good supplies were purchased. While inpatient, home repair projects were finished, yard work done, our home cleaned, laundry washed & folded. Children across Wisconsin had lemonade stands and proudly gifted their proceeds. A freezer chest magically appeared in our garage to provide a place to store the compiling dinners. Blessed blankets, stuffed animals, “snap-in-front” outfits, children’s books, and a necklace with a charm containing a picture of my sweet baby arrived. Numerous donations to Paxton’s Angel Network were made; personal checks written and sent. Several fundraisers, a silent auction, and an honorary blood drive were held. Wristbands were created, purchased, and donned. Dearly committed family members shared shifts through frightening, heart wrenching, sleepless nights. Endless trips between our home and the hospital were made to gather forgotten items…and then made again. Vacation days were used. Mileage was compiled. Our adored dog, Lucas, was lovingly adopted – whether we rushed to the ER, or embarked on what would become an 18-night stay. A beautiful song, “Learn to Fly”, was written & recorded. Prayer chains were started. Candles, at congregations around the globe, were lit. Individual prayers – in homes across the land - were said…every single night. Our nephews and niece were gladly “taken in” as to grant my devoted sister some undistracted time with her beloved nephew. Yellow fast became everyone’s new favorite color. Angels were compiled – a statue, garden ornament, figurines, pins, and coins. Assistance with sorting through, interpreting, and tracking endless medical statements was provided. Heartwarming landscaping met us at our front lawn. All of it made a difference. Every. Single. Thing. No one deed superseded another – for, it was the ‘whole’ that afforded us the most priceless gift. The abundant selflessness at play allowed us to focus every second of the day, every ounce of emotional energy, where it was most needed…most deserved: on our sweet Paxton.
Regretfully, we will never be able to properly repay any one of these kind people, much less each one of them. However, over the past several months a group of special angels has been working tirelessly behind the scenes. These angels – most, once complete strangers – established a foundation in Paxton’s honor. The Paxton Andrews Foundation: Team Paxton is an Unincorporated Wisconsin Non-Profit Association (U.A.) and will have additional federal tax exemption (501(c)(3) status in place, as soon as the final stage of procedural processing by the IRS is completed. Team Paxton is devoted to continue Paxton’s fight. The goal: to stop cancer from stealing one more child. We can only hope, it will suffice to know we are committed and determined to provide support to other families facing the terrifying fight against childhood cancer. If you are compelled to learn more, to participate, to spread the word, to continue to fight - - please visit our website at www.teampaxton.org.
John and I remain completely and wholly devastated by the loss of our precious baby boy. In losing Paxton, we have lost our only child, our miracle baby, our beloved, perfect, beautiful son; we have lost our future. For now, it is impossible to separate the grief of losing Paxton - from the love of having Paxton. Grief and love: the two most powerful, yet paradoxical, emotions - have declared war in our souls.
We will walk this dark walk. It is sure to be the darkest walk of our lives. But we will not stop searching for light. When we need it most, we believe Paxton will provide that light. We will see the life spark of his contagious smile reflect in your eyes. We will feel the peacefulness of his tender soul through your embrace. We will hear the gentleness of his beautiful heart as you speak his name. We will sense the courage of his brave spirit from the march of your “Army of Love”. We will find Paxton is…all around.
With endless appreciation, immeasurable gratitude, extraordinary love -
Danna & John Andrews
Paxton’s Momma & Daddy
Paxton's Angel Network
Escrito el Jul 11, 2012 10:40pm por Amy SiodlarzWe are thankful that Danna and John continue to feel the love and support of family and friends beyond Paxton's memorial service. We hope that they and Paxton are held close in your thoughts and hearts endlessly.In effort to ensure that donations made through Caring Bridge reach Danna, John and Paxton directly, it is worth restating that the only way to do this is through the following linkTribute donations, seen in the right hand column of this website, are different and are intended for upkeep of the Caring Bridge website. Tribute donations are made in Paxton's honor but are not received by the Andrews family.Thank you for understanding the need to make this important distinction.
Tribute Service For Paxton
Escrito el Jul 4, 2012 7:33am por Amy SiodlarzArrangements for a tribute service have been made. It will be held Saturday, July 7, 2012 at Alverno College Rotunda and Conference Center. Visitors are asked to use the main entrance on 43rd Street in Milwaukee, and park in the ramp. Visitation will be held from 12 to 3 p.m., and a memorial service from 3-4 p.m.
In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to Paxton’s Angel Network (https://www.wepay.com/donations/paxton-s-angel-network). While our angel has joined the choir in heaven, the aftermath of his battle still remains, and there are other families who continue to fight cancer. Once the medical bills have been taken care of, Paxton’s parents will listen for the quiet whispers of his heart, and do his will for charity here on earth, in honor of Paxton’s quiet strength.
Rest now, little angel.