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Debbie Hoffman
Deb Hoffman
Christmas Vespers Dedicated to the Life and Memory of Paul Gothard III
Lake Erie College is pleased to announce the return of Christmas Vespers on Sunday, Dec. 8 at 4:30 p.m. in the Morley Music Building. This year's concert will be dedicated to the life and memory of Professor Paul Gothard III.

Christmas Vespers is one of Lake Erie College's longest traditions dating back to the early 1900s. This year's concert will feature the Lake Erie College Student and Community Chorus, directed by Roberta Whitely; the Lake Erie College Flute Choir, directed by Judith Elias; College Organist Dr. Mark Bell; Associate Professor of Theater Dr. Jerry Jaffe; and student soloists.

Works by Adam, Bach, Paul Gothard III, Mathias, Rutter and other composers will be performed. LEC PSEO student Kenan Irish will play piano solo by Bach, and Karen Rauff '06 and LEC PSEO student Janay Beamer will play a duo with Irish. Dr. Jaffe and Connor McCarthy '15 will present readings. Dr. Bell will perform on the Skinner organ and join flautist Elias. Mary Ann Ratchko-Gamez, tin whistle, will collaborate with Whitely performing Celtic Christmas music. There will also be a traditional audience sing-along of favorite Christmas carols.

The concert is free and open to the community. The Morley Music Building is not handicap accessible. Additional parking is available at the First Church of Christ located at 422 Mentor Avenue, Painesville. For additional information, please call 440-375-7030.




Fran Williams
Frances Caswell Williams
I wonder how you are doing ,Sunni, now that a little time has passed. The new normal is I hope becoming more familiar, and the pain becoming a little less intense. I hope you are taking care of yourself physically, and seeking comfort from family and friends.  It takes time to get used to the empty places in your life I expect, but letting them stay empty for too long can lead to depression. You are in my thoughts , just keep on keeping on and time will heal.
Katji McCusker
Katji McCusker
One of Paul's messages here, on Caring Bridge was Who will care for Sunni? Remember Sunni, that you have a large community to draw from, so utilize from that well, for there are many sources of loving varieties of backgrounds, all of whom have the same honor and love for you and Paul. One foot in front of each other. As a trauma survivor, this is my mantra. Loving you and Paul, dear friend. Katji
Bobbi Brooker Sundman
Bobbi Brooker Sundman
This will take time...a good year of time. I lost my dad when he was 56. I watched my mom, a quiet, gentle woman who had never even paid a bill before, become an amazingly strong, self-reliant, inspiration to me and many others. You have been through the toughest time of your life. You can get through anything else. Give it time. Get out. Stay busy, in your routine. Be with people as much as possible. They want to be with you...very much. The alone times are the hardest. I cried most days while driving to work in the car. I was alone. Once I was with people I was so much better. You'll never forget the wonderful memories, don't worry about that. But, yes, you'll start thinking about Paul less and less and you might think if that happens, he'll be gone forever. Nope. Never. Always there, sometimes at funny moments, and you'll laugh and cry at the same time. Its good. You can do this. In time...in time.
Margie Vaughan
Margie Vaughan
There's no easy way to get through the grief process.  It takes time, and even then, the hurt will always be there, just less so. Be kind to yourself during this time. God is there with you and I pray an extra amount of comfort for you.  He loves you and understands what you are feeling.  Allow him to carry you when you don't have strength.  He understands your doubts and fears and anger too.  I didn't know Paul, but from what I've heard and read about him he is an amazing man to have had as your husband.  My heart hurts for you. You are in my prayers. You will make it through.

With love and care,
Paula C. Gray
Paula C. Gray
Sunni,
There will be cloudy days, know that during those times God is being a fence around you, He continues to carry and keep you with Paul's love forever remaining in your heart.  You continue to be an inspiration to all of us. 
Keeping you lifted in love. 
Paula C. Gray
Betsey Merkel
Betsey Merkel
Dear Sunni,
My heart goes out to you and with it the warmest of blessings to you and dear Paul. Grieving is certainly a most exhausting but healing process. Tired to the bone is a good way of describing it! Lean on your family, friends and your deepest self forward - you will find your way with the love and warmth of all of us here with you. If you ever need to talk and just need someone to listen we are here for you. Hugs, Betsey PS Where can we find your mailing address?

Pam Tinkler
Pam Tinkler
Dear Sunni, 

I wish I had words of comfort at this time but pain of the loss of people we love so dearly is so palpable, it feels as if we can reach out and touch it.  

Even though we have been taught life ends with death, it is just the body that goes.  Our souls pass into another form of energy enveloped in the bright light of Love or God.  

I believe Paul will continue be with you....in spirit. Your guardian angel.

Blessing to you in your time of mourning.





Elizabeth White
Andrew & Elizabeth
Dear Sunni,
I need to tell you that Paul's energy is far reaching. A week before school started I choreographed multiple new pieces on Andy's musical performance ensemble. One of the pieces was titled "PROUD". I chose this piece to use as a choreographers workshop for the performers, allowing several measures for them, divided in two groups, to create their own movement. For this endeavor I provided them with several images. Each group receiving three photos from which they wrote of the emotion connected to the photos that they would use as the base for movement. I included Paul's pictures in each group. One group had a picture of Paul conducting the choir. The other group a picture of Paul playing piano. The words that were associated with Paul were: discipline, integrity, precision, courage, strength, graceful, power,  impulse, passion, heart, intelligence, love, beauty, eternal. I will also tell you the movement inspired by these words is beautiful and meaningful. The group will perform for the first time on Saturday. We will think of you and Paul....".What have you done today to make you feel proud?" I believe both you and Paul have a very long list to feel proud about. Not only can Paul's energy create beautiful music but it has created beautiful dance as well.....thank you!
James Johnston
JJ
Sunni, your devotion to Paul
Paul's devotion to you
Fills a void in us all.
How can we measure
the love that you treasure?
The ache in our hearts?
The anger of why?
The tears in our eyes?
Would would Paul want?
That's not Paul's instrument.
That's not his measure.
That's not his metronome.
He'd want us to sing
He'd want us to play
He'd want us to laugh.
Not cry and be sad
He'd want us to
Celebrate his life
Celebrate his legacy
Celebrate his spirit
Celebrate his new eternal Sunni Light.

We love you Paul & Sunni, we love you!
Elizabeth White
Andrew & Elizabeth

For A Good Man/Irish Blessing

Henry Scott Holland

Death is nothing at all.  It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Everything remains as it was.

The old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no sorrow in your tone.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effort.  

Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was.
There is unbroken continuity.

Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.

All is well. Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.

How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting, when we meet again.

 

Debbie Hoffman
Deb Hoffman
Christmas Vespers Dedicated to the Life and Memory of Paul Gothard III
Lake Erie College is pleased to announce the return of Christmas Vespers on Sunday, Dec. 8 at 4:30 p.m. in the Morley Music Building. This year's concert will be dedicated to the life and memory of Professor Paul Gothard III.

Christmas Vespers is one of Lake Erie College's longest traditions dating back to the early 1900s. This year's concert will feature the Lake Erie College Student and Community Chorus, directed by Roberta Whitely; the Lake Erie College Flute Choir, directed by Judith Elias; College Organist Dr. Mark Bell; Associate Professor of Theater Dr. Jerry Jaffe; and student soloists.

Works by Adam, Bach, Paul Gothard III, Mathias, Rutter and other composers will be performed. LEC PSEO student Kenan Irish will play piano solo by Bach, and Karen Rauff '06 and LEC PSEO student Janay Beamer will play a duo with Irish. Dr. Jaffe and Connor McCarthy '15 will present readings. Dr. Bell will perform on the Skinner organ and join flautist Elias. Mary Ann Ratchko-Gamez, tin whistle, will collaborate with Whitely performing Celtic Christmas music. There will also be a traditional audience sing-along of favorite Christmas carols.

The concert is free and open to the community. The Morley Music Building is not handicap accessible. Additional parking is available at the First Church of Christ located at 422 Mentor Avenue, Painesville. For additional information, please call 440-375-7030.




Katji McCusker
Katji McCusker
One of Paul's messages here, on Caring Bridge was Who will care for Sunni? Remember Sunni, that you have a large community to draw from, so utilize from that well, for there are many sources of loving varieties of backgrounds, all of whom have the same honor and love for you and Paul. One foot in front of each other. As a trauma survivor, this is my mantra. Loving you and Paul, dear friend. Katji
Margie Vaughan
Margie Vaughan
There's no easy way to get through the grief process.  It takes time, and even then, the hurt will always be there, just less so. Be kind to yourself during this time. God is there with you and I pray an extra amount of comfort for you.  He loves you and understands what you are feeling.  Allow him to carry you when you don't have strength.  He understands your doubts and fears and anger too.  I didn't know Paul, but from what I've heard and read about him he is an amazing man to have had as your husband.  My heart hurts for you. You are in my prayers. You will make it through.

With love and care,
Paula C. Gray
Paula C. Gray
Sunni,
There will be cloudy days, know that during those times God is being a fence around you, He continues to carry and keep you with Paul's love forever remaining in your heart.  You continue to be an inspiration to all of us. 
Keeping you lifted in love. 
Paula C. Gray
Betsey Merkel
Betsey Merkel
Dear Sunni,
My heart goes out to you and with it the warmest of blessings to you and dear Paul. Grieving is certainly a most exhausting but healing process. Tired to the bone is a good way of describing it! Lean on your family, friends and your deepest self forward - you will find your way with the love and warmth of all of us here with you. If you ever need to talk and just need someone to listen we are here for you. Hugs, Betsey PS Where can we find your mailing address?

Pam Tinkler
Pam Tinkler
Dear Sunni, 

I wish I had words of comfort at this time but pain of the loss of people we love so dearly is so palpable, it feels as if we can reach out and touch it.  

Even though we have been taught life ends with death, it is just the body that goes.  Our souls pass into another form of energy enveloped in the bright light of Love or God.  

I believe Paul will continue be with you....in spirit. Your guardian angel.

Blessing to you in your time of mourning.





James Johnston
JJ
Sunni, your devotion to Paul
Paul's devotion to you
Fills a void in us all.
How can we measure
the love that you treasure?
The ache in our hearts?
The anger of why?
The tears in our eyes?
Would would Paul want?
That's not Paul's instrument.
That's not his measure.
That's not his metronome.
He'd want us to sing
He'd want us to play
He'd want us to laugh.
Not cry and be sad
He'd want us to
Celebrate his life
Celebrate his legacy
Celebrate his spirit
Celebrate his new eternal Sunni Light.

We love you Paul & Sunni, we love you!
Fran Williams
Frances Caswell Williams
I wonder how you are doing ,Sunni, now that a little time has passed. The new normal is I hope becoming more familiar, and the pain becoming a little less intense. I hope you are taking care of yourself physically, and seeking comfort from family and friends.  It takes time to get used to the empty places in your life I expect, but letting them stay empty for too long can lead to depression. You are in my thoughts , just keep on keeping on and time will heal.
Bobbi Brooker Sundman
Bobbi Brooker Sundman
This will take time...a good year of time. I lost my dad when he was 56. I watched my mom, a quiet, gentle woman who had never even paid a bill before, become an amazingly strong, self-reliant, inspiration to me and many others. You have been through the toughest time of your life. You can get through anything else. Give it time. Get out. Stay busy, in your routine. Be with people as much as possible. They want to be with you...very much. The alone times are the hardest. I cried most days while driving to work in the car. I was alone. Once I was with people I was so much better. You'll never forget the wonderful memories, don't worry about that. But, yes, you'll start thinking about Paul less and less and you might think if that happens, he'll be gone forever. Nope. Never. Always there, sometimes at funny moments, and you'll laugh and cry at the same time. Its good. You can do this. In time...in time.
Elizabeth White
Andrew & Elizabeth
Dear Sunni,
I need to tell you that Paul's energy is far reaching. A week before school started I choreographed multiple new pieces on Andy's musical performance ensemble. One of the pieces was titled "PROUD". I chose this piece to use as a choreographers workshop for the performers, allowing several measures for them, divided in two groups, to create their own movement. For this endeavor I provided them with several images. Each group receiving three photos from which they wrote of the emotion connected to the photos that they would use as the base for movement. I included Paul's pictures in each group. One group had a picture of Paul conducting the choir. The other group a picture of Paul playing piano. The words that were associated with Paul were: discipline, integrity, precision, courage, strength, graceful, power,  impulse, passion, heart, intelligence, love, beauty, eternal. I will also tell you the movement inspired by these words is beautiful and meaningful. The group will perform for the first time on Saturday. We will think of you and Paul....".What have you done today to make you feel proud?" I believe both you and Paul have a very long list to feel proud about. Not only can Paul's energy create beautiful music but it has created beautiful dance as well.....thank you!
Elizabeth White
Andrew & Elizabeth

For A Good Man/Irish Blessing

Henry Scott Holland

Death is nothing at all.  It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Everything remains as it was.

The old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no sorrow in your tone.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effort.  

Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was.
There is unbroken continuity.

Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.

All is well. Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.

How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting, when we meet again.

 

Debbie Hoffman
Deb Hoffman
Christmas Vespers Dedicated to the Life and Memory of Paul Gothard III
Lake Erie College is pleased to announce the return of Christmas Vespers on Sunday, Dec. 8 at 4:30 p.m. in the Morley Music Building. This year's concert will be dedicated to the life and memory of Professor Paul Gothard III.

Christmas Vespers is one of Lake Erie College's longest traditions dating back to the early 1900s. This year's concert will feature the Lake Erie College Student and Community Chorus, directed by Roberta Whitely; the Lake Erie College Flute Choir, directed by Judith Elias; College Organist Dr. Mark Bell; Associate Professor of Theater Dr. Jerry Jaffe; and student soloists.

Works by Adam, Bach, Paul Gothard III, Mathias, Rutter and other composers will be performed. LEC PSEO student Kenan Irish will play piano solo by Bach, and Karen Rauff '06 and LEC PSEO student Janay Beamer will play a duo with Irish. Dr. Jaffe and Connor McCarthy '15 will present readings. Dr. Bell will perform on the Skinner organ and join flautist Elias. Mary Ann Ratchko-Gamez, tin whistle, will collaborate with Whitely performing Celtic Christmas music. There will also be a traditional audience sing-along of favorite Christmas carols.

The concert is free and open to the community. The Morley Music Building is not handicap accessible. Additional parking is available at the First Church of Christ located at 422 Mentor Avenue, Painesville. For additional information, please call 440-375-7030.




Bobbi Brooker Sundman
Bobbi Brooker Sundman
This will take time...a good year of time. I lost my dad when he was 56. I watched my mom, a quiet, gentle woman who had never even paid a bill before, become an amazingly strong, self-reliant, inspiration to me and many others. You have been through the toughest time of your life. You can get through anything else. Give it time. Get out. Stay busy, in your routine. Be with people as much as possible. They want to be with you...very much. The alone times are the hardest. I cried most days while driving to work in the car. I was alone. Once I was with people I was so much better. You'll never forget the wonderful memories, don't worry about that. But, yes, you'll start thinking about Paul less and less and you might think if that happens, he'll be gone forever. Nope. Never. Always there, sometimes at funny moments, and you'll laugh and cry at the same time. Its good. You can do this. In time...in time.
Paula C. Gray
Paula C. Gray
Sunni,
There will be cloudy days, know that during those times God is being a fence around you, He continues to carry and keep you with Paul's love forever remaining in your heart.  You continue to be an inspiration to all of us. 
Keeping you lifted in love. 
Paula C. Gray
Pam Tinkler
Pam Tinkler
Dear Sunni, 

I wish I had words of comfort at this time but pain of the loss of people we love so dearly is so palpable, it feels as if we can reach out and touch it.  

Even though we have been taught life ends with death, it is just the body that goes.  Our souls pass into another form of energy enveloped in the bright light of Love or God.  

I believe Paul will continue be with you....in spirit. Your guardian angel.

Blessing to you in your time of mourning.





Fran Williams
Frances Caswell Williams
I wonder how you are doing ,Sunni, now that a little time has passed. The new normal is I hope becoming more familiar, and the pain becoming a little less intense. I hope you are taking care of yourself physically, and seeking comfort from family and friends.  It takes time to get used to the empty places in your life I expect, but letting them stay empty for too long can lead to depression. You are in my thoughts , just keep on keeping on and time will heal.
Margie Vaughan
Margie Vaughan
There's no easy way to get through the grief process.  It takes time, and even then, the hurt will always be there, just less so. Be kind to yourself during this time. God is there with you and I pray an extra amount of comfort for you.  He loves you and understands what you are feeling.  Allow him to carry you when you don't have strength.  He understands your doubts and fears and anger too.  I didn't know Paul, but from what I've heard and read about him he is an amazing man to have had as your husband.  My heart hurts for you. You are in my prayers. You will make it through.

With love and care,
Elizabeth White
Andrew & Elizabeth
Dear Sunni,
I need to tell you that Paul's energy is far reaching. A week before school started I choreographed multiple new pieces on Andy's musical performance ensemble. One of the pieces was titled "PROUD". I chose this piece to use as a choreographers workshop for the performers, allowing several measures for them, divided in two groups, to create their own movement. For this endeavor I provided them with several images. Each group receiving three photos from which they wrote of the emotion connected to the photos that they would use as the base for movement. I included Paul's pictures in each group. One group had a picture of Paul conducting the choir. The other group a picture of Paul playing piano. The words that were associated with Paul were: discipline, integrity, precision, courage, strength, graceful, power,  impulse, passion, heart, intelligence, love, beauty, eternal. I will also tell you the movement inspired by these words is beautiful and meaningful. The group will perform for the first time on Saturday. We will think of you and Paul....".What have you done today to make you feel proud?" I believe both you and Paul have a very long list to feel proud about. Not only can Paul's energy create beautiful music but it has created beautiful dance as well.....thank you!
James Johnston
JJ
Sunni, your devotion to Paul
Paul's devotion to you
Fills a void in us all.
How can we measure
the love that you treasure?
The ache in our hearts?
The anger of why?
The tears in our eyes?
Would would Paul want?
That's not Paul's instrument.
That's not his measure.
That's not his metronome.
He'd want us to sing
He'd want us to play
He'd want us to laugh.
Not cry and be sad
He'd want us to
Celebrate his life
Celebrate his legacy
Celebrate his spirit
Celebrate his new eternal Sunni Light.

We love you Paul & Sunni, we love you!
Katji McCusker
Katji McCusker
One of Paul's messages here, on Caring Bridge was Who will care for Sunni? Remember Sunni, that you have a large community to draw from, so utilize from that well, for there are many sources of loving varieties of backgrounds, all of whom have the same honor and love for you and Paul. One foot in front of each other. As a trauma survivor, this is my mantra. Loving you and Paul, dear friend. Katji
Betsey Merkel
Betsey Merkel
Dear Sunni,
My heart goes out to you and with it the warmest of blessings to you and dear Paul. Grieving is certainly a most exhausting but healing process. Tired to the bone is a good way of describing it! Lean on your family, friends and your deepest self forward - you will find your way with the love and warmth of all of us here with you. If you ever need to talk and just need someone to listen we are here for you. Hugs, Betsey PS Where can we find your mailing address?

Elizabeth White
Andrew & Elizabeth

For A Good Man/Irish Blessing

Henry Scott Holland

Death is nothing at all.  It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Everything remains as it was.

The old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.

Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no sorrow in your tone.

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.

Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effort.  

Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was.
There is unbroken continuity.

Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.

All is well. Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.

How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting, when we meet again.