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Abby’s Story

Rest in peace, Abby Mae.

March 1st, 2009 - July 1st, 2009

In our lives for an instant
In our thoughts always
In our hearts forever

On May 14th, we brought Abby to her pediatrician to have him look at some pronounced veins and apparent swelling on the top of her head. After a follow-up ultrasound gave us cause for serious concern, we received the first of a wave of unbelievably tragic news that was far beyond anything that we could have ever imagined or feared less than 36 hours later. On Sunday, May 17th, Abby turned 12 weeks old. By Monday afternoon, we knew that she had an inoperable brain tumor that isn't responsive to chemotherapy, and that our options were limited to how to best care for her during her remaining days. Tuesday, May 19th, we brought her home to give her as much happiness as we possibly can. We'll have trips to some of Abby's favorite places (the park, the beach), as well as some new adventures, with lots of photo opportunities along the way.

We can't thank everyone enough for all the kind words, warm wishes, thoughtful prayers, and expressions of hope that we've received over the last several days. We'll remember them in our hearts always.

We also realize that many of our wonderful friends and family members will want to do something over the coming days to show their continued support. As much as we appreciate the caring, selfless natures of Abigail's extended family, as well as everyone's desire to try to respond to what is obviously a great shock, we respectfully request that you give us a little time to absorb all of this, as well as to spend some private time together as a family. For the time being, our basic needs are being met, and we'll reach out quickly if we find ourselves in need of food, supplies, or a sympathetic shoulder to lean on. 

If you have children, please go give them giant hugs and great, big kisses. If not, please phone your parents, hug your dog (or other critter), or just remind someone that you love them. This will be in the true spirit of what Abby means to us and her big sister Emily.
We'll post some photos when time permits. In the meantime, you can see some pictures during happier times at Emily's blog:


Abby, Emily, Julie, and Joe 

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On Sunday, September 13, 2009, we will be participating in what we hope is the first of many Jimmy Fund Walks in Abby's name, as part of team Angel Abby. Link to our page is:

So many people have been so generous in donating their time and money in memory of Abby that we hesitated to ask for more, but our belief in the cause won out. If you haven't had a chance to make a donation to the Jimmy Fund this year, please think of this as an excellent opportunity to do so. Hopefully the day will come when little girls like Abby have a fighting chance.

While we can never thank everyone who has supported us through this tragedy enough, we'd like to send a great, big Thank You to our friends who worked to create Team Angel Abby and who will walk in her name, as well as to Bill, Jim, and Chris, who used their bicycles and hearts to to raise money for Abby in the last 2 months. You all have a special place in our hearts.