To help those of you who want to express your love and support for Molly and Aaron in a tangible way, we have established The Volker Family Benefit Fund through TCF Bank. If you want to make a donation, all you have to do is send your check to any TCF bank. The check should be made out to "The Volker Family Benefit Fund/7440116393." Jim Cahill (Nora's PopPops)
Nancy Jean Volker, Aaron's 55 yr old mother went home peacefully to God last Monday, Sep.22, 2014. Our hearts are broken again. 2 weeks after Nora went home to God, we found out that Nancy had terminal stage 4 breast cancer. She went on to live for 4 more years, with a high degree of quality of life. We are grateful she met her 2 grandsons and was able to grow in her relationship with her first grand daughter :) Her passing was peaceful and hopeful. Aaron was busy putting Andrew to bed and began to think of his mother and felt the time was near, so he asked Nora to go be with Nancy. Suddenly there was a flash of bright light (Nora's name means light) and then the phone rang. When he picked up the phone his father told him Nancy's breaths had gotten unsteady. Then he paused and said she had stopped breathing. Close family was also present. Now, here we are in this place again. This place of grief. Post death is a grace-filled time for Aaron and I. We both have experienced brighter colors outside, more vivid sunrises and sunsets, crisper outlines to the things in nature ... it's beautiful and totally surreal. I noticed it for a couple months after Nora went home and Aaron notices it again now. Life seems more alive somehow. Minutes seems more precious. And the passage of time feels "off" somehow. Evie says she is going to miss gramma but she is happy she is with Nora. When we got to the family farm, you could tell she got more sad. She asked if she could do something for gramma. Since her current talent lies in cake baking, she thought she wanted to make a cake for gramma. At night she now asks me to draw on her back with my finger at night ... something Nancy used to do for her. Andrew is too young to be anything but matter of fact but he needs me and his dad because he is a bit out of sorts. I spent most of the Celebration of Life gathering chasing him in his Ninja Turtle shell and mask, just loving on him like Nancy loved on Aaron. The baby is such a joy at this point. He is fat and jolly and you can't help but fall in love and have all sorts of hope when you hold him. Aaron, well, he lost his mother. He is crushed. But he knows in a very real way how this goes. So there is some peace to be had in that. I just miss her. I never knew how much I would but there is a huge hole where she left that will always be felt. I knew Nancy before I knew Aaron was her son. Our jobs had us cross paths and I honestly thought (before I even knew she had a son at all) that she would be a lovely mother-in-law ... and she was. Nancy, we love you. We miss you. We miss baby girl. Thank you both for heightening our senses and helping us make these precious moments count. And thanks be to GOD for the Holy Spirit and this grace that holds us in our sadness as well as our friends and family that hold us up. We are truly blessed.