Missy Cook Stark's Journal
Happy 35th Missy
Written Jul 12, 2012 11:29am by John Stark
Today (7/11) would have been Missy's 35th birthday. The kids and I still woke up and wished her happy birthday and toasted her at dinner. I have noticed there is still a log on of about 50+ individuals a day on this site so I figured this would also give you something to read. The kids and I left RI on a trip the week following Missy's memorial. We spent the first week in Orlando and went swimming with dolphins. We had planned this trip originally back in the winter for April. I had to also follow through on my promise to Delia as this was a dream of hers. I must say it was amazing. We then took a flight out West to Phoenix. I welcomed the opportunity NOT to go to amusement parks with 3 kids. Yes, July in Arizona and Florida! However, we did have fun. Tempe was where Missy and I spent our first year of married life and the site of “Niner’s” birth. We have continued our travels to San Diego, LA (kids were disappointed in Hollywood/thank you Lord!) and we are currently just south of San Fran. We have no end currently in sight and will at least get all the way to Seattle. If we have the endurance (for me patience) we will make our way to Yellowstone National Park. This was a favorite and very special place for us all last summer. The journey presents an opportunity for me to monitor the kids and establish ourselves as a unit. Honestly, it is a much needed distraction for me as I was going crazy sitting at home. I have also had the opportunity to read books (Chris Spielman “That’s Why I’m Here was an emotional read) and just think. I would not ring this up as fun but definitely needed... The kids have had some laughs/smiles, tears and a lot of questions in the evenings or during long rides in the car. Many of them where there is no answer but I am doing my best.
We also have been following through on Missy's wish to her ashes spread at various specified places. This started the evening of her memorial at Black Point in RI. She had made some specific requests for now and at future events. This was one of the reasons we went to Phoenix and plan to travel to Yellowstone. We have also spread her ashes at some of our new memories as well. It is comforting to know she is not only with us in spirit but also in this form. Some interesting/odd experiences have occurred that make me at least pause and think is Missy telling us something. However, I will leave those stories for the "Stark" fire.
Thanks again everyone for continued thoughts and prayers.
Written Jun 16, 2012 11:58am by Patrick Tegels
Friends and Family of the Starks:
There have been several inquiries on the topic of flowers and/or donations for the Stark family.
I have begun to establish accounts to deposit funds of those who are looking to make donations to benefit Niner, Abby and Delia college fund. These UTMA custodial accounts will be set up with Charles Schwab and Co. with the help of a close friend of John's. For those that have a desire to donate please send checks made out to Charles Schwab and Co. to my home address and I will be sending along these checks to our friend. The proceeds will be divided amongst the 3 children's accounts equally.
Again please do not make the checks out to me, make the check in care of Charles Schwab and Co. to the address below.
4160 Drummore Lane
CincinnatI, OH 45245
I would also like to give the details of the memorial services being planned for Missy here in Rhode Island.
The dedicated memorial services for Missy will be Saturday, June 23rd at 10:30 am.
The location for the memorial service will be at:
South Kingstown High School Auditorium
215 Columbia Street
Wakefield, RI 02879
John would also like to continue to express his gratitude to those that have shown such an overwhelming amount of love and support to his family in this time of need. Those living great distances from RI should not feel obligated to attend the memorial knowing your thoughts, prayers and love with be with the family.
Lodging is becoming a challenge as the 2012 America's Cup Boating Competition stops in Newport, RI the week following the memorial. The accommodations that John referenced in his last post, Hampton Inn and Holiday Inn Express have limited availability and you should double check as the reservation may be non-refundable or transferable.
Service Update for the celebration of Missy
Written Jun 14, 2012 6:06pm by John Stark
Friends and Family
A memorial service has been organized in Michigan to celebrate the lives of Missy and her father, Roger tomorrow, June 15th at 11:00 AM. The location is as follows:
Brighton Nazarene Church
7669 Brighton Road
Brighton, MI 48116
Niner, Abby, Delia and I will NOT be present as we are in Rhode Island. Missy's family will be there and it is open to the public.
The dedicated memorial service for Missy will be Saturday, June 23rd at 10:30 AM. The service will be held at the South Kingstown High School. I will send out a reminder on this site with address next week.
The love that has been expressed to the family is beyond words. No one traveling a great distance should feel obligated to attend. However, those that will be making the journey from out of state should fly into TF Green Airport (PVD) in Providence, RI. The service location is an estimated 25 minutes from the Airport. Boston Logan (BOS) is an alternative airport and is 1.5 hours with no traffic. Suggested accommodations would be around the PVD airport (most affordable), Newport, RI (15-20 minutes away) and in the town of South Kingstown (Holiday Inn and Hampton Inn along with a number of boutique locations). It is a public service.