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There will be a mass said in Matthew's name on August 21 at 8:00AM at Epiphany Church in Coon Rapids.

To the Pafko family in loving memory of Matthew John
Born to eternal life on July 20, 2009

From a letter to his Mother by Saint Aloysius Gonzaga
Born to eternal life on 1591
     "May the comfort and grace of the Holy Spirit be yours for ever, most honored lady.  Your letter found me lingering still in this region of the dead, but now I must rouse myself to make my way on to heaven at last and to praise God for ever in the land of the living, indeed I had hoped that before this time my journey there would have been over.  If charity, as Saint Paul says, means to weep with those who weep and rejoice with those who are glad, then, dearest mother, you shall rejoice exceedingly that God in his love for you is showing me the path to true happiness, and assuring me that I shall never lose him.
     The divine goodness, most honored lady, is a fathomless and shoreless ocean and I confess that when I plunge my mind into thought of this it is carried away by the immensity and feels quite lost and bewildered there.  In return for my short and feeble labors, God is calling me to eternal rest, his voice from heaven invites me to the infinite bliss I have sought so languidly, and promises me this reward for the tears I have so seldom shed.
     Take care above all things, most honored lady, not to insult God's boundless loving kindness,  you would certainly do this is you mourned as dead one living face to face with God, one whose prayers can bring you in your troubles more powerful aid than they ever could on earth.  And our parting will not be for long;  we shall see each other again in heaven;  we shall be united with our Savior;  there we shall praise him with heart and soul, sing of his mercies for ever, and enjoy eternal happiness.  When he takes away what he once lent us, his purpose is to store our treasure elsewhere more safely and bestow on us those blessings that we ourselves would most choose to have.
     I write all this with one desire that you and all my family may consider my departure a joy and favor and that you especially may speed with a mother's blessing my passage across the waters till I reach the shore to which all hopes belong.  I write the more willingly because i have no clearer way of expressing the love and respect I owe you as your son."
With love and prayers,
 Father Reiser
Father Reiser read this at Matthew's prayer service and gave Deb a framed copy.  I can't believe it will be five years since his passing......  Matthew told mom, "I love you the most" before he died.  We LOVE and miss you Matthew!
Update on Pafko family:
-Andrew and wife Jessica-  Andrew works in financial industry and Jessica owns Kalon Salon and Spa in Blaine.  They are very happy:)
-Jessica, husband Andy, and son Lucas- Jessica LOVES being a Mom. Andy is coaching three soccer teams this summer!  Lucas is well loved by all.
-Alexandra and fiance Tim-  Alexandra got promoted to senior engineer and is getting her engineering  graduate degree at University of Saint Thomas.  Tim is an analyst for a large company.
-Ashley went to Barcelona Spain for ten days with University of MN Women's Soccer team.  She is training hard for upcoming fall season!  She made dean's list.
-Jason plays on two baseball teams and preparing for his senior football season.  Jason and mom helped at Sharing and Caring Hands a few weeks ago.
-Jay and Deb will be married thirty five years in August.  Our "YES" meant "YES'. Jay prays daily the Saint Bridget prayers.  Deb attends daily mass and prays fifteen decades of the rosary daily.  All glory and power to Jesus.
Jay and Deb forever  

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Paula Huss
By Paula Huss
Deb and family ~ WHAT a beautiful letter by Saint Aloysius Gonzaga! It is truly as though these are Matthew's words to YOU! A treasure!!! All thanks and glory be to our great GOD in Heaven!
~ Paula
May Matthew's soul and that of Fr.Reiser, rest in Peace!
Tabby Finton
By Tabby
Thank you for continuing to share your love for Matthew and your family with us, Deb. What a precious re-cap of your family. It's so nice to get caught up! Blessings to you all, and congratulations on your 35th Anniversary! :)
Joan Krogstad
What a beautiful post, Deb. My heart and prayers are with you and your family. So happy to hear about the kids, so blessed! I miss our times together. God bless you and your family.