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Matthew’s Story

Matthew John Pafko, Age 16 of Blaine, MN passed away 7/20/09 after a courageous 7 year battle with cancer. Survived by loving parents, Jay & Debora; siblings, Andrew, Jessica, Alexandra, Ashley & Jason; many other loving relatives & friends. 

Matthew raised $8,000.00 for the homeless at Sharing and Caring Hands run by Mary Jo Copeland.  His picture is hanging in Mary's Place.

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Happy 22nd Birthday, Matthew John <3


The following is a message delivered by Mother Theresa of Calcutta to the International Conference on Population and Development in Cairo, Egypt.  September 9th, 1994

     "I speak today to you from my heart--to each person in all the nations of the world, to people with power to make big decisions as well as to all the mothers, fathers, and children in the cities, towns, and villages.
     Each one of us is here today because we have been loved by God who created us and our parents who accepted and cared enough to give us life.  Life is the most beautiful gift of God.  That is why it is so painful to see what is happening today in so many places around the world.  Life is being deliberately destroyed by war, by violence, by abortion.  And we have been created by God for greater things--to love and be loved.
     i have said often, and I am sure of it, that the greatest destroyer of peace in the world today is abortion.  If a mother can kill her own child, what is there to stop you and me from killing each other?  The only one who has the right to take life is the One who has created it.  Nobody else has that right, not the doctor, no agency, no conference, no government.
     I am sure that deep down in your heart, you know that the unborn child is a human being loved by God, like you and me.   How can anyone, knowing that, deliberately destroy that life?   It frightens me to think of all the people who kill their conscience so that they can perform an abortion.  When we die, we will come face to face with God for the millions and millions of babies who were not allowed to have the chance to live, to experience loving and being loved?
    God has created a world big enough for all the lives He wishes to be born.  It is only our hearts that are not big enough to want them and accept them.   If all the money that is being spent on finding ways to kill people was used instead to feed and house them and educate them-- how beautiful that would be.  We are too often afraid of the sacrifices we might have to make.  But where there is love, there is always sacrifice.  and when we love until it hurts, there is joy and peace.
     If there is a child that you don't want or can't  feed or educate, give that child to me.  I will not refuse any child.  I will give a home, or find loving parents for him or her.  We are fighting abortion by adoption and have given thousands of children to caring families.  And it is so beautiful to see the love and unity that a child brings to a family.
    The child is the most beautiful gift of God to a family, to a nation.  Let us never refuse this gift of God.  My prayer for each one of you is that you may always have the faith to see and love God in each person, including the unborn.  God bless you!"

"Human Life must always be defended from its beginning in the womb and must be recognized as a gift from God, that guarantees the future of humanity."  Pope Francis

"Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless." Blessed Mother Teresa

"Since Mary is rightly to be regarded as the way by which we are led to Christ, the person who encounters Mary cannot help but encounter Christ likewise.  For whatever other reason do we continually turn to Mary except to seek the Christ in her arms, to seek our Savior in her, through Her, and with Her."  Pope Paul VI

"Let us run to Mary, and, as her children, cast ourselves into her arms with a perfect confidence."  Saint Francis de Sales

January 24th is Matthew's birthday!  "Matthew was a hero to me," said Mary Jo Copeland of Sharing and Caring Hands.  "Here is a boy who was suffering and put aside self to make a difference.  He was a beautiful example to the community of what you can do by being unselfish."  Matthew's Way raised $8,000.00 for the homeless.  Thank you to all who helped this cause.

Matthew was not the only boy to get cancer.  This was an opportunity to make something good happen and help somebody else, to think about else in your darkest moments.  The lesson was, the importance of treating others how you want to be treated.

2015 will be an exciting year for Jay and Deb!  A daughter is getting married, and a second grandchild is on the way.
All the best,
Jay and Deb Pafko (married 36 years)  
I love you forever, Jay!