Recently I ran across a quote from Helen Keller. I'd never heard it before. I thought of you and hope that it is maybe a new way to look at your grief and try to wrench some comfort out of this sentiment. If not now, maybe you'll be ready to give it more thought as time goes on. My heart is with you all. Here's the quote:
We bereaved are not alone.
We belong to the largest company in all the world, the company of those who have known suffering.
When it seems that our sorrow is too great to be borne, let us think of the great family of the heavy hearted into which our grief has given us entrance, and inevitably, we will feel about us their arms, their sympathy, their understanding.
Believe, when you are most unhappy, that there is something for you to do in the world.
So long as you can sweeten another's pain, life is not in vain.
-- Helen Keller