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Jimmy Dykes
Jimmy Dykes
Gracie

Thank you for sharing this wonderful eulogy with all of us, especially those of us who were unable to attend the wake and funeral. How ironic that I was at a management/coaching seminar, when Coach passed away. Despite my best efforts to return in time for the funeral, the airlines simply would not cooperate. Somehow I have to believe that Coach had his hand in this, realizing my management and coaching skills needed further refinement.

My wonderful classmates, Durant, Hagerty, Kenslea, Carlson, Palotta, Baronis etal, kept me well informed with text messages and emails during the wake and funeral. I hope you don't find that rude, as it was my request. They also assured me that they drank "my share" too at the Erie Pub on Thursday evening. I'm not surprised, and I'm sure it doesn't come as a surprise to you either.

God bless you and your family for the way you have devoted yourself to Coach over the past few years. I'm also pleased to know that it was not his illness that brought everyone closer during his time of need. We have witnessed this love for many, many years. I'm all too familiar with this terrible disease, but I'm sure it was a labor of love.

I will make a donation in coach's memory to one of the listed charities. Somehow I think it will be back to the alma mater, so someone from my old Roxbury stomping grounds can experience the same opportunity and lifetime memories that I had and continue to have.

I have asked Coach to keep me in his prayers, and to continue to guide me and lead to continued success in life. We're better for knowing him.

Love to all,

Jimmy Dykes '71
Joe Sheehan
Joe Sheehan
Dear Gracie:

Michael was succinct and impressive, definitely bark from the tree and you were magnificent - not only in your eulogy but in your devotion to your dad.  I do hope you will now take some time for yourself and your family to restore and renew those batteries that have running non-stop.

On the way to the funeral I was also thinking about Charlie McCoy's funeral and our conversation at that time.  "Cotter, hit the books!"  College was more important than another year of high school baseball.

I see Charlie as the prototype.  He did for your dad, Jackie Wayland, Butch Toland, Paul Hunder, Frank Furie and many others what your dad would do for a much longer period, matching kids to great educational institutions, often beyond our grasp, unaided.  I remember the boost from Charlie when I was discussing a fellowship offer from the University of Chicago.  I was intimidated to say the least and talking with Charlie and Father Majoney.  Both were supportive, Charlie ending with - "Look, go there and don't leave unless the place burns down."

I regret that I wasn't able to speak to you at the reception, but I was able to share stories with our extended family.  And, I sure am grateful for having been able to spend some time with Jim and our friends when he was alive.

thanks for all you have done.

Joe
Laureen  Delaney Cron
Laureen Delaney Cron
Hi Grace,

I am so saddened to hear about the Coach's passing.  But, as you outlined so beautifully in your eulogy, he was a man of integrity and dignity, well loved, and well purposed.  As you noted, he taught many how to live and to handle surrendering to illness with grace.   But it also seems that you and, Agnes, kel and Mike have showed the rest of us a thing or two about family as well.   Rather than be immobilized by saddness, you all worked to pull everyone together and tranform something that was so life changing and difficult  into a wonderful and awe inspiring situation.  You are all truly Amazing.  I know your Dad must have been beaming over with pride at how you took charge and rallied everyone.  In my book the entire Team Cotter is pretty impressive.   You have all inherited the Coach's class and resolve and he will live on in you and your children.  You are all in my prayers.  I am so sorry I was unable to attend the services on Friday.  But I hope I will be able to see you soon.   Love Laureen
PS. Loved the poem "anyway" it was perfect.  XO 
Donna O'Brien
Donna O'Brien
Dear Gracie, 

Thank you so much for sharing your blessed words about your father. We only wish we could have been there to hear them first hand. Your father was one in a million, for sure. He certainly made the world a better place for all of us.  Much love and prayers during this time of unspeakable sadness.... that Mother Theresa prayer is my favorite, too! Take care. dob 
tracy mclaughlin
tracy mclaughlin
To All Of The Cotter Family, I wanted to take this time to let all of you know how honored I was to be able to be with you today and to be a witness to such a unbelieveable tribute to Jim. You all should take comfort in knowing that you gave him so many incredible gifts through-out this whole journey and today was proof of your continuing love for him. I will keep you all in my prayers  God Bless  Tracy McLaughlin 
Dave Wagner
Dave Wagner
What can I say that others haven't already said? Jim Cotter was,is and always will be one hell of a man. He led by example and everyone who had the pleasure and or luck to meet him followed his example willingly. I am in Nebraska at the National Special Olympics working with the Flag Football event, a first for the Special Olympics. I know that had Jim Cotter had the time and opportunity he would have been here giving and giving and giving.

"while we bow in submission to the will of our Heavenly Father, we mourn the loss of our Brother Jim who has been taken from us;"

Your Father, your husband and what I consider my shining example of how to live in this world will be truly missed.

Dave Wagner '75
Brian barron
Brian barron
My deep condolences to the Cotter family and the entire BC High community. Jim was an icon that will never be seen again. I am honored and humbled that he was so fond of the clas of 1971- my class- as there are so many great classes to choose.

May Jim rest in peace knowing that he truly embodied the spirit of being " a man for others".

Brian Barron-71
John McDargh
John McDargh
Dearest Gracie:

I have so deeply admired the faithful companioning that you and all of your family, and the extended network of colleagues, friends, former students and the BC High family have given your dad through his final years.    You have been the spark plug of this spiritual pit crew, Grace, and I hope that your memories of the way you have eased this last length of Coach's marathon will be a solace and a blessing in the weeks and months ahead.

Faithfully yours,'
John
Frank Foley '72
Frank Foley '72
Dear Agnes, Grace, Kelly and Michael ... and all your family;

What else can be said ... the Coach has passed and the world is poorer for it.  There's a portion of the eulogy that was delivered, with some humour, in the Irish movie ... 'Waking Ned Devine'. I've taken the liberty of posting that small piece and I hope you and your readers will understand how this resonates so strongly with me as it regards 'the Big Guy'. Take care and God Bless, Jim ... we'll see you on the other side.

With Love, Frank Foley BC High '72 

"Michael O'Sullivan was my great friend. But I don't ever remembering telling him that. The words that are spoken at a funeral are spoken too late for the man who is dead. What a wonderful thing it would be to visit your own funeral. To sit at the front and hear what was said, maybe say a few things yourself.

"Michael and I grew old together. But at times, when we laughed, we grew young. If he was here now, if he could hear what I say, I'd congratulate him on being a great man, and thank him for being a friend."
Sean Fitzgerald
Sean Fitzgerald
Hello Gracie,

My name is Sean Fitzgerald ('67). Jim Cotter was both my teacher and football coach.

I would like to express my condolences on the passing of your Dad. He was a remarkable man, who still has an impact on my daily existence forty years later and 7,300 miles away from Boston. What can I say that has not already been said about 'Jungle Jim Cotter'? He was a man who led by force on the gridiron and by example off the field. He knew how to make one feel special. I attended the wake for your Mom, Ann. Despite the fact that I had not seen your Dad since graduation 16 years earlier, he remembered my name and thanked me for coming.

I would also like to thank you for the wonderful weekly messages, updating us on your Dad's condition and the people who came to visit. Reading your messages and hearing the names of Frank Casey, John Malloy, Norman Swain, Bob Bouley, Jerry York..., took me back in time

The sadness associated with your Dad's passing, after a long and courageous fight, will last briefly. His impact will carry on.

Gracie, thank you for the happiness that you and your Dad have brought into my life.

With deepest sympathies,

Sean
Scott Weber
Scott Weber
I just heard the sad news of Coach's passing this afternoon, and cannot help but remember what a great man he was. My thoughts and prayers go out to the Cotter family. I know that Coach is in a better place now, and that his loved ones can find comfort in that, and in the strength that he showed while he faced this illness.

Thank you, Coach, and rest in peace. We are all better people to have known you.

Scott Weber
Class of '88
barbara Donovan
barbara Donovan
Dear Agnes,
 How brave and courageous you have been throughout Jim's illness. You were a true partner and as time goes on you will be grateful that you shared this journey with him. It is SO difficult to lose people we love, our parents, our friends, but your husband, your partner is the toughest loss of all.  Please know that you have so many people who admired your selflessness and dedication and who will be with as you grieve.

God bless.

Love, Barbara
Jimmy Dykes
Jimmy Dykes
Gracie

Thank you for sharing this wonderful eulogy with all of us, especially those of us who were unable to attend the wake and funeral. How ironic that I was at a management/coaching seminar, when Coach passed away. Despite my best efforts to return in time for the funeral, the airlines simply would not cooperate. Somehow I have to believe that Coach had his hand in this, realizing my management and coaching skills needed further refinement.

My wonderful classmates, Durant, Hagerty, Kenslea, Carlson, Palotta, Baronis etal, kept me well informed with text messages and emails during the wake and funeral. I hope you don't find that rude, as it was my request. They also assured me that they drank "my share" too at the Erie Pub on Thursday evening. I'm not surprised, and I'm sure it doesn't come as a surprise to you either.

God bless you and your family for the way you have devoted yourself to Coach over the past few years. I'm also pleased to know that it was not his illness that brought everyone closer during his time of need. We have witnessed this love for many, many years. I'm all too familiar with this terrible disease, but I'm sure it was a labor of love.

I will make a donation in coach's memory to one of the listed charities. Somehow I think it will be back to the alma mater, so someone from my old Roxbury stomping grounds can experience the same opportunity and lifetime memories that I had and continue to have.

I have asked Coach to keep me in his prayers, and to continue to guide me and lead to continued success in life. We're better for knowing him.

Love to all,

Jimmy Dykes '71
Laureen  Delaney Cron
Laureen Delaney Cron
Hi Grace,

I am so saddened to hear about the Coach's passing.  But, as you outlined so beautifully in your eulogy, he was a man of integrity and dignity, well loved, and well purposed.  As you noted, he taught many how to live and to handle surrendering to illness with grace.   But it also seems that you and, Agnes, kel and Mike have showed the rest of us a thing or two about family as well.   Rather than be immobilized by saddness, you all worked to pull everyone together and tranform something that was so life changing and difficult  into a wonderful and awe inspiring situation.  You are all truly Amazing.  I know your Dad must have been beaming over with pride at how you took charge and rallied everyone.  In my book the entire Team Cotter is pretty impressive.   You have all inherited the Coach's class and resolve and he will live on in you and your children.  You are all in my prayers.  I am so sorry I was unable to attend the services on Friday.  But I hope I will be able to see you soon.   Love Laureen
PS. Loved the poem "anyway" it was perfect.  XO 
Dave Wagner
Dave Wagner
What can I say that others haven't already said? Jim Cotter was,is and always will be one hell of a man. He led by example and everyone who had the pleasure and or luck to meet him followed his example willingly. I am in Nebraska at the National Special Olympics working with the Flag Football event, a first for the Special Olympics. I know that had Jim Cotter had the time and opportunity he would have been here giving and giving and giving.

"while we bow in submission to the will of our Heavenly Father, we mourn the loss of our Brother Jim who has been taken from us;"

Your Father, your husband and what I consider my shining example of how to live in this world will be truly missed.

Dave Wagner '75
John McDargh
John McDargh
Dearest Gracie:

I have so deeply admired the faithful companioning that you and all of your family, and the extended network of colleagues, friends, former students and the BC High family have given your dad through his final years.    You have been the spark plug of this spiritual pit crew, Grace, and I hope that your memories of the way you have eased this last length of Coach's marathon will be a solace and a blessing in the weeks and months ahead.

Faithfully yours,'
John
Sean Fitzgerald
Sean Fitzgerald
Hello Gracie,

My name is Sean Fitzgerald ('67). Jim Cotter was both my teacher and football coach.

I would like to express my condolences on the passing of your Dad. He was a remarkable man, who still has an impact on my daily existence forty years later and 7,300 miles away from Boston. What can I say that has not already been said about 'Jungle Jim Cotter'? He was a man who led by force on the gridiron and by example off the field. He knew how to make one feel special. I attended the wake for your Mom, Ann. Despite the fact that I had not seen your Dad since graduation 16 years earlier, he remembered my name and thanked me for coming.

I would also like to thank you for the wonderful weekly messages, updating us on your Dad's condition and the people who came to visit. Reading your messages and hearing the names of Frank Casey, John Malloy, Norman Swain, Bob Bouley, Jerry York..., took me back in time

The sadness associated with your Dad's passing, after a long and courageous fight, will last briefly. His impact will carry on.

Gracie, thank you for the happiness that you and your Dad have brought into my life.

With deepest sympathies,

Sean
Scott Weber
Scott Weber
I just heard the sad news of Coach's passing this afternoon, and cannot help but remember what a great man he was. My thoughts and prayers go out to the Cotter family. I know that Coach is in a better place now, and that his loved ones can find comfort in that, and in the strength that he showed while he faced this illness.

Thank you, Coach, and rest in peace. We are all better people to have known you.

Scott Weber
Class of '88
Joe Sheehan
Joe Sheehan
Dear Gracie:

Michael was succinct and impressive, definitely bark from the tree and you were magnificent - not only in your eulogy but in your devotion to your dad.  I do hope you will now take some time for yourself and your family to restore and renew those batteries that have running non-stop.

On the way to the funeral I was also thinking about Charlie McCoy's funeral and our conversation at that time.  "Cotter, hit the books!"  College was more important than another year of high school baseball.

I see Charlie as the prototype.  He did for your dad, Jackie Wayland, Butch Toland, Paul Hunder, Frank Furie and many others what your dad would do for a much longer period, matching kids to great educational institutions, often beyond our grasp, unaided.  I remember the boost from Charlie when I was discussing a fellowship offer from the University of Chicago.  I was intimidated to say the least and talking with Charlie and Father Majoney.  Both were supportive, Charlie ending with - "Look, go there and don't leave unless the place burns down."

I regret that I wasn't able to speak to you at the reception, but I was able to share stories with our extended family.  And, I sure am grateful for having been able to spend some time with Jim and our friends when he was alive.

thanks for all you have done.

Joe
Donna O'Brien
Donna O'Brien
Dear Gracie, 

Thank you so much for sharing your blessed words about your father. We only wish we could have been there to hear them first hand. Your father was one in a million, for sure. He certainly made the world a better place for all of us.  Much love and prayers during this time of unspeakable sadness.... that Mother Theresa prayer is my favorite, too! Take care. dob 
tracy mclaughlin
tracy mclaughlin
To All Of The Cotter Family, I wanted to take this time to let all of you know how honored I was to be able to be with you today and to be a witness to such a unbelieveable tribute to Jim. You all should take comfort in knowing that you gave him so many incredible gifts through-out this whole journey and today was proof of your continuing love for him. I will keep you all in my prayers  God Bless  Tracy McLaughlin 
Brian barron
Brian barron
My deep condolences to the Cotter family and the entire BC High community. Jim was an icon that will never be seen again. I am honored and humbled that he was so fond of the clas of 1971- my class- as there are so many great classes to choose.

May Jim rest in peace knowing that he truly embodied the spirit of being " a man for others".

Brian Barron-71
Frank Foley '72
Frank Foley '72
Dear Agnes, Grace, Kelly and Michael ... and all your family;

What else can be said ... the Coach has passed and the world is poorer for it.  There's a portion of the eulogy that was delivered, with some humour, in the Irish movie ... 'Waking Ned Devine'. I've taken the liberty of posting that small piece and I hope you and your readers will understand how this resonates so strongly with me as it regards 'the Big Guy'. Take care and God Bless, Jim ... we'll see you on the other side.

With Love, Frank Foley BC High '72 

"Michael O'Sullivan was my great friend. But I don't ever remembering telling him that. The words that are spoken at a funeral are spoken too late for the man who is dead. What a wonderful thing it would be to visit your own funeral. To sit at the front and hear what was said, maybe say a few things yourself.

"Michael and I grew old together. But at times, when we laughed, we grew young. If he was here now, if he could hear what I say, I'd congratulate him on being a great man, and thank him for being a friend."
barbara Donovan
barbara Donovan
Dear Agnes,
 How brave and courageous you have been throughout Jim's illness. You were a true partner and as time goes on you will be grateful that you shared this journey with him. It is SO difficult to lose people we love, our parents, our friends, but your husband, your partner is the toughest loss of all.  Please know that you have so many people who admired your selflessness and dedication and who will be with as you grieve.

God bless.

Love, Barbara
Laureen  Delaney Cron
Laureen Delaney Cron
Hi Grace,

I am so saddened to hear about the Coach's passing.  But, as you outlined so beautifully in your eulogy, he was a man of integrity and dignity, well loved, and well purposed.  As you noted, he taught many how to live and to handle surrendering to illness with grace.   But it also seems that you and, Agnes, kel and Mike have showed the rest of us a thing or two about family as well.   Rather than be immobilized by saddness, you all worked to pull everyone together and tranform something that was so life changing and difficult  into a wonderful and awe inspiring situation.  You are all truly Amazing.  I know your Dad must have been beaming over with pride at how you took charge and rallied everyone.  In my book the entire Team Cotter is pretty impressive.   You have all inherited the Coach's class and resolve and he will live on in you and your children.  You are all in my prayers.  I am so sorry I was unable to attend the services on Friday.  But I hope I will be able to see you soon.   Love Laureen
PS. Loved the poem "anyway" it was perfect.  XO 
tracy mclaughlin
tracy mclaughlin
To All Of The Cotter Family, I wanted to take this time to let all of you know how honored I was to be able to be with you today and to be a witness to such a unbelieveable tribute to Jim. You all should take comfort in knowing that you gave him so many incredible gifts through-out this whole journey and today was proof of your continuing love for him. I will keep you all in my prayers  God Bless  Tracy McLaughlin 
John McDargh
John McDargh
Dearest Gracie:

I have so deeply admired the faithful companioning that you and all of your family, and the extended network of colleagues, friends, former students and the BC High family have given your dad through his final years.    You have been the spark plug of this spiritual pit crew, Grace, and I hope that your memories of the way you have eased this last length of Coach's marathon will be a solace and a blessing in the weeks and months ahead.

Faithfully yours,'
John
Donna O'Brien
Donna O'Brien
Dear Gracie, 

Thank you so much for sharing your blessed words about your father. We only wish we could have been there to hear them first hand. Your father was one in a million, for sure. He certainly made the world a better place for all of us.  Much love and prayers during this time of unspeakable sadness.... that Mother Theresa prayer is my favorite, too! Take care. dob 
Dave Wagner
Dave Wagner
What can I say that others haven't already said? Jim Cotter was,is and always will be one hell of a man. He led by example and everyone who had the pleasure and or luck to meet him followed his example willingly. I am in Nebraska at the National Special Olympics working with the Flag Football event, a first for the Special Olympics. I know that had Jim Cotter had the time and opportunity he would have been here giving and giving and giving.

"while we bow in submission to the will of our Heavenly Father, we mourn the loss of our Brother Jim who has been taken from us;"

Your Father, your husband and what I consider my shining example of how to live in this world will be truly missed.

Dave Wagner '75
Frank Foley '72
Frank Foley '72
Dear Agnes, Grace, Kelly and Michael ... and all your family;

What else can be said ... the Coach has passed and the world is poorer for it.  There's a portion of the eulogy that was delivered, with some humour, in the Irish movie ... 'Waking Ned Devine'. I've taken the liberty of posting that small piece and I hope you and your readers will understand how this resonates so strongly with me as it regards 'the Big Guy'. Take care and God Bless, Jim ... we'll see you on the other side.

With Love, Frank Foley BC High '72 

"Michael O'Sullivan was my great friend. But I don't ever remembering telling him that. The words that are spoken at a funeral are spoken too late for the man who is dead. What a wonderful thing it would be to visit your own funeral. To sit at the front and hear what was said, maybe say a few things yourself.

"Michael and I grew old together. But at times, when we laughed, we grew young. If he was here now, if he could hear what I say, I'd congratulate him on being a great man, and thank him for being a friend."
Scott Weber
Scott Weber
I just heard the sad news of Coach's passing this afternoon, and cannot help but remember what a great man he was. My thoughts and prayers go out to the Cotter family. I know that Coach is in a better place now, and that his loved ones can find comfort in that, and in the strength that he showed while he faced this illness.

Thank you, Coach, and rest in peace. We are all better people to have known you.

Scott Weber
Class of '88
Jimmy Dykes
Jimmy Dykes
Gracie

Thank you for sharing this wonderful eulogy with all of us, especially those of us who were unable to attend the wake and funeral. How ironic that I was at a management/coaching seminar, when Coach passed away. Despite my best efforts to return in time for the funeral, the airlines simply would not cooperate. Somehow I have to believe that Coach had his hand in this, realizing my management and coaching skills needed further refinement.

My wonderful classmates, Durant, Hagerty, Kenslea, Carlson, Palotta, Baronis etal, kept me well informed with text messages and emails during the wake and funeral. I hope you don't find that rude, as it was my request. They also assured me that they drank "my share" too at the Erie Pub on Thursday evening. I'm not surprised, and I'm sure it doesn't come as a surprise to you either.

God bless you and your family for the way you have devoted yourself to Coach over the past few years. I'm also pleased to know that it was not his illness that brought everyone closer during his time of need. We have witnessed this love for many, many years. I'm all too familiar with this terrible disease, but I'm sure it was a labor of love.

I will make a donation in coach's memory to one of the listed charities. Somehow I think it will be back to the alma mater, so someone from my old Roxbury stomping grounds can experience the same opportunity and lifetime memories that I had and continue to have.

I have asked Coach to keep me in his prayers, and to continue to guide me and lead to continued success in life. We're better for knowing him.

Love to all,

Jimmy Dykes '71
Joe Sheehan
Joe Sheehan
Dear Gracie:

Michael was succinct and impressive, definitely bark from the tree and you were magnificent - not only in your eulogy but in your devotion to your dad.  I do hope you will now take some time for yourself and your family to restore and renew those batteries that have running non-stop.

On the way to the funeral I was also thinking about Charlie McCoy's funeral and our conversation at that time.  "Cotter, hit the books!"  College was more important than another year of high school baseball.

I see Charlie as the prototype.  He did for your dad, Jackie Wayland, Butch Toland, Paul Hunder, Frank Furie and many others what your dad would do for a much longer period, matching kids to great educational institutions, often beyond our grasp, unaided.  I remember the boost from Charlie when I was discussing a fellowship offer from the University of Chicago.  I was intimidated to say the least and talking with Charlie and Father Majoney.  Both were supportive, Charlie ending with - "Look, go there and don't leave unless the place burns down."

I regret that I wasn't able to speak to you at the reception, but I was able to share stories with our extended family.  And, I sure am grateful for having been able to spend some time with Jim and our friends when he was alive.

thanks for all you have done.

Joe
Brian barron
Brian barron
My deep condolences to the Cotter family and the entire BC High community. Jim was an icon that will never be seen again. I am honored and humbled that he was so fond of the clas of 1971- my class- as there are so many great classes to choose.

May Jim rest in peace knowing that he truly embodied the spirit of being " a man for others".

Brian Barron-71
Sean Fitzgerald
Sean Fitzgerald
Hello Gracie,

My name is Sean Fitzgerald ('67). Jim Cotter was both my teacher and football coach.

I would like to express my condolences on the passing of your Dad. He was a remarkable man, who still has an impact on my daily existence forty years later and 7,300 miles away from Boston. What can I say that has not already been said about 'Jungle Jim Cotter'? He was a man who led by force on the gridiron and by example off the field. He knew how to make one feel special. I attended the wake for your Mom, Ann. Despite the fact that I had not seen your Dad since graduation 16 years earlier, he remembered my name and thanked me for coming.

I would also like to thank you for the wonderful weekly messages, updating us on your Dad's condition and the people who came to visit. Reading your messages and hearing the names of Frank Casey, John Malloy, Norman Swain, Bob Bouley, Jerry York..., took me back in time

The sadness associated with your Dad's passing, after a long and courageous fight, will last briefly. His impact will carry on.

Gracie, thank you for the happiness that you and your Dad have brought into my life.

With deepest sympathies,

Sean
barbara Donovan
barbara Donovan
Dear Agnes,
 How brave and courageous you have been throughout Jim's illness. You were a true partner and as time goes on you will be grateful that you shared this journey with him. It is SO difficult to lose people we love, our parents, our friends, but your husband, your partner is the toughest loss of all.  Please know that you have so many people who admired your selflessness and dedication and who will be with as you grieve.

God bless.

Love, Barbara