"I am standing in a whirlwind of faith, love and concern and am awed and humbled by it ." Jamey McCue August 16, 2007
Welcome to our CaringBridge site. It has been created to keep friends and family updated about Jamey's and our fight against his cancer.
Glenda and I will never be able to thank you all enough for your prayers, love and support you have shown us this past week. As you know, I have been diagnosed with pancreatic and liver cancer. Since then our whole world has been filled with tears, hugs, laughter and too many to count “God moments”. I will do my best to relay these moments to you as we are on this journey.
I was diagnosed on Monday 8/13 by Dr. Tripp Jones. He is excellent. He recommended we go to Duke for a second opinion. In the mean time he scheduled a biopsy for Friday 8/17. The biopsy only collected the dead cancer cells. On Monday 8/20, Glenda, Mom, Joey and I went to Duke to Meet with Dr.'s Johanna Bendell, Head of Duke's GI Oncology Dept and Karen Bullock, a Duke Fellow. Both are wonderful and made Glenda and I feel very comfortable. I asked them who their biggest competition was for research grant dollars is; the answer is Dr Wolf at MD Anderson. Dr. Brendell said if I wanted his opinion or the opinion of any other Doctor, she would arrange it. She said at this level the Dr.'s at Johns Hopkins, Sloan Kettering etc. all knew each other and if she thought there was a better course of treatment for me out there she would arrange for me to do it regardless of the Doctor or the hospital. She said, “ It's all about getting you the best treatment, not my research.” Glenda and I were extremely pleased with her answer. Dr. Bendell ordered another biopsy for Wednesday 8/22 so they could try to collect some active cancer cells. We came home Monday. Tuesday we took care of some business, visited with friends, drove back to Durham and spent the night. Wednesday at 8:00am I had my second biopsy, spent several hours in recovery and came back home. We will know the results on Friday. This will help determine a clearer course of attack. Today we celebrated our niece Jenna's 17th birthday, bought four new tires for Glenda's big red truck, worked on a layout for my shop and Jenna and I went to part of the Dreher HS football game. Tomorrow, Glenda and I will go to Clemson to see the boys. We have arranged to have a family portrait taken on the grounds at Clemson. Joey, my brother has arranged for us to stay at a lake house on Lake Keowee for the weekend. Saturday is our anniversary. Can you believe Glenda has put up with me for 23 years? Me neither. Sorry we will not be in church with you on Sunday.
I would like to share four things I have learned this week.
1) The difference between being in control and being in charge. The first is quite simply, you are not in control, and God is! However, God has given all of us the ability to be in charge. Every day we choose to be in charge of what we do, how we act and whom we choose to love. These are the things that matter most to God and thus those around us.
2) My dear friend Mary Greene sent me a card with the following quotes: “I know God won't give me anything I can't handle. I just wish He didn't trust me so much.” Mother Teresa. As you all know, I am no Mother Teresa but I think I know how she felt.
3) Dr. Bendell's RULES. (Picture if you will, Glenda pen and paper in hand poised to take down every word at this point. The rules are as follows: 1-Eat anything you want. Also do not try to lose weight. Remember these are Dr.'s orders. 2-Be as active as you can be. 3-Do not suffer in silence; you have way too many people who love you. 4-Seize the day. I like these rules.
4) You have heard me say “I am blessed more than I deserve.” and “God looks out for babies, animals and Jamey McCue.” Well, I'm here to tell you that is the truth. I am so blessed it is truly amazing.
Thank you for everything you have done for us. We will continue to keep you in our prayers and know you will do the same for us.
In Christ's love,
Jamey, Glenda, Ryan, and Cory