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Guy’s Story

I have been diagnosed with multiple myeloma, and, on this site, I will provide updates as I have them.  I will also treasure messages of encouragement and promises of prayer. I am trusting the words of Juliana of Norwich:

God did not say: You will not be troubled, you will not be belabored, you will not be disquieted; but he said: You will not be overcome.  God wants us to pay attention to those words and always be strong in faithful trust, in well-being and in woe, for he loves us and delights in us, so he wishes us to love him and delight in him and trust greatly in him, and all will be well. . . . [The Lord says most comfortingly]: I may make all things well, and I can make all things well, and I shall make all things well, and I will make all things well; and you will see yourself that every kind of thing will be well.

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God with Us

This week has been busy with medical appointments.  On Monday, I say my internist for my physical and, "other than cancer," I am in really good health.  It sounds a little odd, I know, to put it that way, but it is such a gift that I don't have other issues with which to deal while continuing to live with "Frank."  I talked by phone with the transplant team at Duke; after having read my latest test results, I don't have to journey back to Durham for an evaluation until the anniversary of the transplant in July. 

Yesterday afternoon, I had a Zometa infusion, felt pretty lousy last night, and have residual "flu-like" feeling today; but I am able to work, so my response to the infusion this month is a bit less adverse than other months.  That's good news, especially since I resume taking the oral chemotherapy drug today, after a 7-day respite.

This morning, I say my Asheville oncologist, Dr. Friedman.  He is retiring, and I am delighted for him.  I will miss his skillful and responsive care, though. I told him again today how very much I appreciate the ways he has guided me through this year of diagnosis and treatment.  He told me that the traces of cancer still evident in my system are not presently a concern. The ongoing therapy is aimed at keeping the cancer in check, for as long as we can, at those very faint levels.  Again, I am so thankful. 

I had a chance this week to sit and talk with someone who wanted to hear about my cancer journey and about the ending of my ministry at First Baptist Church, Asheville.  As we talked, I kept coming back to two things which, beyond very real anxiety and struggle, have pervaded this year: gratitude for love, grace, and mercy and a now-visceral (not just intellectual) conviction that we are never alone, even in those threatening and foreboding moments when we fear and feel that we are.  As I have said and experienced so often during these days, there is no separation from the love of God made real to us in Jesus. 

It is the Christmas promise.  Jesus is Emmanuel, "God with us"--always.

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Dorothy Porter
By Dorothy and Bob Porter
“It is the Christmas promise. Jesus is Emmanuel, "God with us"—always.” Yes, and in all realms/dimensions of our existence – at (most) times too big to get my head around it ... thankfully God doesn’t require that I do.

Rejoicing for your good report, and praying with you for your next steps!

Melanie McClure
By Melanie
I am grateful too, Guy. Thank you for sharing your experiences and your wisdom with us. What a wonderful conviction for us Christians to hold in our hearts!
James Garrison
By James Garrison
Grateful for the wisdom and experiences you share... prayers continue for you and your family!
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Lee Whitlock
By Lee Whitlock

I continue to follow your journey, and in many ways, yours parallels mine in terms of recovery. In an equal number our paths diverge. I would encourage you, if possible, to find a MM support group. You will find all of those paths and find your uniqueness as well as the similarities you have with others. Like humans, like Christians we are all unique, and I have found comfort in that. To paraphrase Tolstoy: MM patients are all alike; every MM patient in pain is in pain in his/her own way. I worried that the course of my recovery didn't fit the "normal" pattern, but meeting other patients I found that none of us fit the pattern. My oncologist says that I should be pain free now; however, I'm currently seeing a pain management specialist. I worried about this until I found that other MM patients also didn't fit the "normal" pattern in other ways. In that sense, my uniqueness is not so unique.

Brave journey, my friend.
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Krista Wilson
By Krista
Always we begin again...
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Kara Kelley
By Kara Kelley
So thankful to hear this latest check up...a balancing always...a voice crying out and heard. Immanuel...in and around us...surrounding with loving arms...the best gift of all! Blessed Christmas!
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Buddy Corbin
By Buddy Corbin
I can't say it enough: You have and are a gift to me and others. I recall a sermon you preached when I first transitioned away from the pastorate. You said something like this: "You really don't know how much weight you are carrying until you lay it down." I pray that the weight of parish ministry can be easily laid aside so you may rest and find renewed strength. I also pray you will find another "gear" beside the one you report always using.
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James McCoy
By James McCoy
Guy, glad to hear you are keeping on keeping on. Once heard someone say that God was her co-pilot. I suggest He should be the Pilot. Going through the cancer mess with my wife was tough but we knew God was with us. Not sure how non-Christians cope. Must be lonely for them. Keep up the valiant fight and pray that you and yours have a blessed Christmas and that the New Year brings on new and exciting challenges that are non related to the cancer. Keep us posted.
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David Bradley
By David Bradley
Grateful for the reminder that gratitude keeps us remembering we are not alone.
Prayers continue for you in this time of transition.
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Buddy Shurden
By Buddy
Kay and I wish you and yours the very best that the Seasons offer. You cheer and brighten our days with your vibrant faith. Thanks for keeping us posted.
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