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My Story

Calypso Paikea Rhyder (Please note, Rhyder is Calypso's 2nd middle name, not our surname) was born on June 14, 2007 at 3:20 am. She was 29 weeks 5 days and weighed in at 3 lbs 1.9 oz and 13 inches long. Calypso spent 23 days in the NICU at Riley Children's Hospital before she was called home to Heaven on July 7, 2007 at 3:50pm. We will forever miss our Angel.

Calypso may have only been here on this Earth for 23 days but she taught us more about love then most people do in a life time. She was born with impaired kidney function (As per her hospital records tell us) they also noted that she likely would have been ok in the long run with the kidney function she did have and dialysis and perhaps a transplant when she was older. However after a week in the NICU she caught a nasty intestinal infection.

  This infection was called NEC, which stands for Necrotizing Enterocolitis. This is a very vile infection, it kills the lining of the intestines rendering it nothing more then dead tissue. NEC has no known cause yet, although they suspect some sort of organism that is passed from child to child because NICUs often have outbreaks of NEC.

   NEC also has a habit of spreading to other organs, I know many babies that the infection spread to their blood or heart or kidneys. This is what happened to Calypso, with her kidneys already impaired the infection spread to them and completely killed them off. Because of the NEC they were unable to do dialysis. Calypso died at 23 days old on July 7, 2007 at 3:50pm.

   In Calypso's honor I've set up a NICU Remembrance Page, for ALL babies who never made it home from the NICU. Please check it out if you lost your baby in the hospital and perhaps add them to the angel page.



Melissa Lane posted a new journal entry, "Happy Birthday".

  I've pulled myself together a bit.... her 6th birthday was rough but we got through it. I wrote a poem for my sweet girl a few months ago and wanted to share it here ... Read more

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Melissa Lane posted a new journal entry, "Found out Something New".

   Today at almost 6 years later I discovered something new about my sweet Calypso that I never knew before. She sucked her fingers...... how do I know this? Today I ... Read more

Melissa Lane posted a new journal entry, "It's hard to believe".

Five years ago Calypso was here and hadn't even gotten NEC yet. It's such a strange thought.This year, 5 years old, her birthday was harder than usual. It might be because ... Read more

Melissa Lane posted a new journal entry, "5 years ago".

   5 years ago today (May 2, 2007) I was put into the hospital where I would stay until Calypso was born.    It's been kind of rough. Read more

Melissa Lane posted a new journal entry, "Holidays are coming".

  I'm sure you all are wondering why I don't close this site down? Mostly because.... it was around when she was alive and I don't have it in my heart to shut it down. ... Read more

Melissa Lane posted a new journal entry, "4 years ago".

  The journal entry I posted 4 years ago today makes me weep in sorrow. It was so hopeful. I really thought I would be bringing my last born home. I really did. I miss ... Read more

Melissa Lane posted a new journal entry, "4ths and a Garden".

  I know it's been ages and ages since I updated. We just passed up Calypso's 4th birthday. Also on April 15 in Waiheke Island in New Zealand my friend Charlotte ... Read more

Melissa Lane posted a new journal entry.

Christmas passed and it was rough. For some reason this Christmas was worse then past Christmas's. It seems like I say that every year. I think it's because of the thought ... Read more

Melissa Lane posted a new journal entry.

The 4th is approaching and I'm not sure how I feel about it. I love the festivities but at the same time it was the only Holiday Calypso was alive for. I'd taken ina card ... Read more

Melissa Lane posted a new journal entry.

It's kind of hard to believe Calypso's third birthday just passed. Three years since this whole thing started. Three years ago my little girl was alive right now. That is ... Read more

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