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Jose Trujillo
Jose Trujillo
Hello, its your extended brother Jose. I am sorry for our lost. I have just lost my buddy, yet his words of life he shared with me will be my comfort. I will always keep watch over you all where ever you are. I love you all. Betty, if Bud could talk what would he tell you? Remember when he would say " If you can't change it than let it go" on stresses of life. Bud lived by this rule. He never spent to much time duelling on the impossible. He always talked about being a father and a good husband. Bud gave me the wisdom and understanding to be my greatest in both roles. My life will never be the same but I will do my best. I thank God for blessing me and my family with a positive, loving, wise counselor and Best Friend "Bud."

                                         Jose Trujillo
Debi Baker
Debi Baker
I am just so frustrated at the short time frame that all of this happened! I had barely gotten used to the idea that Bud was so ill, let alone that he was going to transition so soon! I am so happy that all of you were able to spend time with him and celebrate your lives together. You are all very lucky and blessed to have Bud as your one "HELLUVAGUY" I know that you are very grateful and realize what a wonderful family and life you had with him!
i spent my day in mediation with Judge Broadman with my brother over the "estate".  This is not about me and my day,but over the days with Caringbridge  text and emails coming to me--it was only one more reminder of how wonderful family can be. I am so envious for what you had. Not Jealous, because I would never want to deprive you, or anyone, of such a wonderful family situation. I just wish I had what you had. I know you are sad, but count yourselves very lucky. I know that you do though! You know what a great guy he was and you are very lucky! We will all miss him also, though!
Karla Quiroga
Karla Quiroga
Dear Kilburn Family:
You are all in my thoughts and prayers.  While I only met Bud a few times, I feel like I know him thanks to all the great stories and wonderful photos shared on this website.  I can't help but also get a feel for Bud's personality through knowing David ... always there to laugh with you or at you. ;)  He has welcomed me to not only the ASN family, but as part of his extended family.  In the short time I've known David, he's become a genuine friend.  I know that it is in thanks to the whole Kilburn family that he is a part of.  I wish you all lots of hugs during this journey together.
Janet McCoy
Janet McCoy
Greetings,

After reading about all the good times and foods that people have shared, I decided that I should whip up a little something and possibly drop it by early tomorrow.  If Mom and I get up and around early enough, I will be by before work, otherwise, it will be later. 
Prayers, love and blessings to you all. 

I love you.
Janet McCoy (Juanita Frita)
Edie Kahn
Edie Kahn
Hi, All -

You guys are all in my thoughts.  My few active brain cells just produced a memory of Bud coming to my rescue.  I had gone up to Robert's cabin and my elderly car was acting up on the way up the hill.  Then, during the week I was there, it began to snow.  And it snowed.  And it snowed.  I talked to David and my panic about how I was going to get out of there must have come through loud and clear.  He, a true friend, called Bud, who called Robert.  Bud then called me to announce that he and Robert would be coming up to the cabin to check out my car and to help me dig out and save my sorry ass (my words, not his).  No arguments - no discussions.  True to his word, they were there an hour later, with shovels and transmission fluid in hand and smiles on their faces.  Bud teased me mercilessly (maybe he did say something about my sorry ass...), but helped get me out of there and he and Robert followed me all the way down the hill to make sure I was okay.  Obviously, I am not the only one who has experienced Bud's kindness and his willingness to go above and beyond for someone.  So many stories in this guestbook show how Bud treats his friends and family and all of us are thankful, not only for the particular favor, but thankful that Bud is in our lives.

Much love -
shannon allegra
shannon allegra
Loving greetings from Grover Beach California!!   I am a friend of David Kilburns with great respect for him and his family especially at this time when all hands are on deck...I practice meditation, yoga and power of positive affirmations... Cancer is deep hurt. Longstanding resentment. Deep secret of greif eating away at the self.  Carrying hatreds.  
Repeat three times daily the following:
I lovingly forgive and release all of the past.  I choose to fill my world with joy.  I love and approve of myself.  

Good Luck~Godspeed~Peace~Namaste, with love Shannon Allegra
 
Azizza Davis Goines
Azizza Davis Goines
I am so honored to be included in and witnessing this miracle of love and transition.  We should all be so fortunate to lead such a full life with family and friends and be surrounded by them all when we decide it's time to go.  There is no doubt that Biggie's journey will continue to be nothing short of exquisite.  I just kinda know that.  I hope that he and all of you have room for my love.  I send much to you.
Elin Egholm Lyngsø
Elin Egholm Lyngsø
Dear Family in Woodlake.

We have get the sadly message about your very hardly days about your disease, Bud . I could feel it yesterday, when I was reading Lisa's  note on Facebook and now have Svend Eli given us the sadly meesage. You and your lovely family are all in our mind. Lovely message from Johannes og Kathrine too all of you
 
Poul Erik og Elin
James Burton
James Burton
Dear Ralph Stanley of Westgate,

This is James Thomas of Westgate.
You'll always be Bud.
I'll always be Bro.
Thanks for always sharing the the lives of your family through the photos  and the memories of the good old days.
Time to get well now.
We're rooting for you.

Bro Burton 
Svend Kuhr
Svend Kuhr
Dear Bud and family,

Who would have thunk?  When the two young brothers, Jakob and Kresten, left their home in Denmark to come to California, the last thing on their minds was how their decision would lead to happy reunions more than 100 years later.  Dealing with the immediate issues at hand was enough.  New country.  New language.  New everything!  To deal with the future beyond the current season was irrelevant.  The two young men did well in the new country, but Kresten got sick with an unknown illness.  He decided to go back to Denmark to get well and then rejoin his brother in California later.  He did get well all right but he never made that second trip across the ocean, and the two brothers would never meet again.  Being farm boys with very little formal schooling, the only form of communication at the time, letter writing, did not work very well.  The last letter from Jakob was dated August 1904.  The two brothers would carry on with their separate lives, including raising families of their own, on two different continents.  But they never knew whether the other one “made it” or not.  It would be late in the 20th Century before that letter from 1904 turned out to be instrumental in the two families finding each other.  Well, it is not two families.  It is ONE family.  Along the way, this family has been enriched by a long string of spouses, children, and in-laws.  A strong infusion of richness occurred when one of Jakob’s grandkids, Betty, married Bud and they raised their family in Woodlake, CA.  I can not even begin to explain the strength of the bond that we found existed across the ocean within our family, and Bud was always a strong component in this bond.  It is a privilege to know you, Bud.  Your positive outlook and your fun loving nature is contagious.  We are grateful that you were part of the deal when the family was reunited.  It just would not have been the same without you.  And we don’t care about the correctness of the terminology.  You ARE our cousin.  Thank you for being you!  Thank you for all the wonderful memories.  We love you.

Mette and Svend 
Cathy Lewis
Cathy Lewis
What a beautiful gift you have been given to be sharing this time surrounded by family and love. I send light,love and energy to all!
 What kind of bird is Bud holding in last posted picture of Bud? You know me and birds, Doesn't look like a Turkey or Peacock.. Quail perhaps? I love you all!
Jose Trujillo
Jose Trujillo
Hello, its your extended brother Jose. I am sorry for our lost. I have just lost my buddy, yet his words of life he shared with me will be my comfort. I will always keep watch over you all where ever you are. I love you all. Betty, if Bud could talk what would he tell you? Remember when he would say " If you can't change it than let it go" on stresses of life. Bud lived by this rule. He never spent to much time duelling on the impossible. He always talked about being a father and a good husband. Bud gave me the wisdom and understanding to be my greatest in both roles. My life will never be the same but I will do my best. I thank God for blessing me and my family with a positive, loving, wise counselor and Best Friend "Bud."

                                         Jose Trujillo
Karla Quiroga
Karla Quiroga
Dear Kilburn Family:
You are all in my thoughts and prayers.  While I only met Bud a few times, I feel like I know him thanks to all the great stories and wonderful photos shared on this website.  I can't help but also get a feel for Bud's personality through knowing David ... always there to laugh with you or at you. ;)  He has welcomed me to not only the ASN family, but as part of his extended family.  In the short time I've known David, he's become a genuine friend.  I know that it is in thanks to the whole Kilburn family that he is a part of.  I wish you all lots of hugs during this journey together.
Janet McCoy
Janet McCoy
Greetings,

After reading about all the good times and foods that people have shared, I decided that I should whip up a little something and possibly drop it by early tomorrow.  If Mom and I get up and around early enough, I will be by before work, otherwise, it will be later. 
Prayers, love and blessings to you all. 

I love you.
Janet McCoy (Juanita Frita)
Elin Egholm Lyngsø
Elin Egholm Lyngsø
Dear Family in Woodlake.

We have get the sadly message about your very hardly days about your disease, Bud . I could feel it yesterday, when I was reading Lisa's  note on Facebook and now have Svend Eli given us the sadly meesage. You and your lovely family are all in our mind. Lovely message from Johannes og Kathrine too all of you
 
Poul Erik og Elin
Svend Kuhr
Svend Kuhr
Dear Bud and family,

Who would have thunk?  When the two young brothers, Jakob and Kresten, left their home in Denmark to come to California, the last thing on their minds was how their decision would lead to happy reunions more than 100 years later.  Dealing with the immediate issues at hand was enough.  New country.  New language.  New everything!  To deal with the future beyond the current season was irrelevant.  The two young men did well in the new country, but Kresten got sick with an unknown illness.  He decided to go back to Denmark to get well and then rejoin his brother in California later.  He did get well all right but he never made that second trip across the ocean, and the two brothers would never meet again.  Being farm boys with very little formal schooling, the only form of communication at the time, letter writing, did not work very well.  The last letter from Jakob was dated August 1904.  The two brothers would carry on with their separate lives, including raising families of their own, on two different continents.  But they never knew whether the other one “made it” or not.  It would be late in the 20th Century before that letter from 1904 turned out to be instrumental in the two families finding each other.  Well, it is not two families.  It is ONE family.  Along the way, this family has been enriched by a long string of spouses, children, and in-laws.  A strong infusion of richness occurred when one of Jakob’s grandkids, Betty, married Bud and they raised their family in Woodlake, CA.  I can not even begin to explain the strength of the bond that we found existed across the ocean within our family, and Bud was always a strong component in this bond.  It is a privilege to know you, Bud.  Your positive outlook and your fun loving nature is contagious.  We are grateful that you were part of the deal when the family was reunited.  It just would not have been the same without you.  And we don’t care about the correctness of the terminology.  You ARE our cousin.  Thank you for being you!  Thank you for all the wonderful memories.  We love you.

Mette and Svend 
Debi Baker
Debi Baker
I am just so frustrated at the short time frame that all of this happened! I had barely gotten used to the idea that Bud was so ill, let alone that he was going to transition so soon! I am so happy that all of you were able to spend time with him and celebrate your lives together. You are all very lucky and blessed to have Bud as your one "HELLUVAGUY" I know that you are very grateful and realize what a wonderful family and life you had with him!
i spent my day in mediation with Judge Broadman with my brother over the "estate".  This is not about me and my day,but over the days with Caringbridge  text and emails coming to me--it was only one more reminder of how wonderful family can be. I am so envious for what you had. Not Jealous, because I would never want to deprive you, or anyone, of such a wonderful family situation. I just wish I had what you had. I know you are sad, but count yourselves very lucky. I know that you do though! You know what a great guy he was and you are very lucky! We will all miss him also, though!
Edie Kahn
Edie Kahn
Hi, All -

You guys are all in my thoughts.  My few active brain cells just produced a memory of Bud coming to my rescue.  I had gone up to Robert's cabin and my elderly car was acting up on the way up the hill.  Then, during the week I was there, it began to snow.  And it snowed.  And it snowed.  I talked to David and my panic about how I was going to get out of there must have come through loud and clear.  He, a true friend, called Bud, who called Robert.  Bud then called me to announce that he and Robert would be coming up to the cabin to check out my car and to help me dig out and save my sorry ass (my words, not his).  No arguments - no discussions.  True to his word, they were there an hour later, with shovels and transmission fluid in hand and smiles on their faces.  Bud teased me mercilessly (maybe he did say something about my sorry ass...), but helped get me out of there and he and Robert followed me all the way down the hill to make sure I was okay.  Obviously, I am not the only one who has experienced Bud's kindness and his willingness to go above and beyond for someone.  So many stories in this guestbook show how Bud treats his friends and family and all of us are thankful, not only for the particular favor, but thankful that Bud is in our lives.

Much love -
shannon allegra
shannon allegra
Loving greetings from Grover Beach California!!   I am a friend of David Kilburns with great respect for him and his family especially at this time when all hands are on deck...I practice meditation, yoga and power of positive affirmations... Cancer is deep hurt. Longstanding resentment. Deep secret of greif eating away at the self.  Carrying hatreds.  
Repeat three times daily the following:
I lovingly forgive and release all of the past.  I choose to fill my world with joy.  I love and approve of myself.  

Good Luck~Godspeed~Peace~Namaste, with love Shannon Allegra
 
Azizza Davis Goines
Azizza Davis Goines
I am so honored to be included in and witnessing this miracle of love and transition.  We should all be so fortunate to lead such a full life with family and friends and be surrounded by them all when we decide it's time to go.  There is no doubt that Biggie's journey will continue to be nothing short of exquisite.  I just kinda know that.  I hope that he and all of you have room for my love.  I send much to you.
James Burton
James Burton
Dear Ralph Stanley of Westgate,

This is James Thomas of Westgate.
You'll always be Bud.
I'll always be Bro.
Thanks for always sharing the the lives of your family through the photos  and the memories of the good old days.
Time to get well now.
We're rooting for you.

Bro Burton 
Cathy Lewis
Cathy Lewis
What a beautiful gift you have been given to be sharing this time surrounded by family and love. I send light,love and energy to all!
 What kind of bird is Bud holding in last posted picture of Bud? You know me and birds, Doesn't look like a Turkey or Peacock.. Quail perhaps? I love you all!
Jose Trujillo
Jose Trujillo
Hello, its your extended brother Jose. I am sorry for our lost. I have just lost my buddy, yet his words of life he shared with me will be my comfort. I will always keep watch over you all where ever you are. I love you all. Betty, if Bud could talk what would he tell you? Remember when he would say " If you can't change it than let it go" on stresses of life. Bud lived by this rule. He never spent to much time duelling on the impossible. He always talked about being a father and a good husband. Bud gave me the wisdom and understanding to be my greatest in both roles. My life will never be the same but I will do my best. I thank God for blessing me and my family with a positive, loving, wise counselor and Best Friend "Bud."

                                         Jose Trujillo
Azizza Davis Goines
Azizza Davis Goines
I am so honored to be included in and witnessing this miracle of love and transition.  We should all be so fortunate to lead such a full life with family and friends and be surrounded by them all when we decide it's time to go.  There is no doubt that Biggie's journey will continue to be nothing short of exquisite.  I just kinda know that.  I hope that he and all of you have room for my love.  I send much to you.
Debi Baker
Debi Baker
I am just so frustrated at the short time frame that all of this happened! I had barely gotten used to the idea that Bud was so ill, let alone that he was going to transition so soon! I am so happy that all of you were able to spend time with him and celebrate your lives together. You are all very lucky and blessed to have Bud as your one "HELLUVAGUY" I know that you are very grateful and realize what a wonderful family and life you had with him!
i spent my day in mediation with Judge Broadman with my brother over the "estate".  This is not about me and my day,but over the days with Caringbridge  text and emails coming to me--it was only one more reminder of how wonderful family can be. I am so envious for what you had. Not Jealous, because I would never want to deprive you, or anyone, of such a wonderful family situation. I just wish I had what you had. I know you are sad, but count yourselves very lucky. I know that you do though! You know what a great guy he was and you are very lucky! We will all miss him also, though!
Janet McCoy
Janet McCoy
Greetings,

After reading about all the good times and foods that people have shared, I decided that I should whip up a little something and possibly drop it by early tomorrow.  If Mom and I get up and around early enough, I will be by before work, otherwise, it will be later. 
Prayers, love and blessings to you all. 

I love you.
Janet McCoy (Juanita Frita)
shannon allegra
shannon allegra
Loving greetings from Grover Beach California!!   I am a friend of David Kilburns with great respect for him and his family especially at this time when all hands are on deck...I practice meditation, yoga and power of positive affirmations... Cancer is deep hurt. Longstanding resentment. Deep secret of greif eating away at the self.  Carrying hatreds.  
Repeat three times daily the following:
I lovingly forgive and release all of the past.  I choose to fill my world with joy.  I love and approve of myself.  

Good Luck~Godspeed~Peace~Namaste, with love Shannon Allegra
 
Elin Egholm Lyngsø
Elin Egholm Lyngsø
Dear Family in Woodlake.

We have get the sadly message about your very hardly days about your disease, Bud . I could feel it yesterday, when I was reading Lisa's  note on Facebook and now have Svend Eli given us the sadly meesage. You and your lovely family are all in our mind. Lovely message from Johannes og Kathrine too all of you
 
Poul Erik og Elin
James Burton
James Burton
Dear Ralph Stanley of Westgate,

This is James Thomas of Westgate.
You'll always be Bud.
I'll always be Bro.
Thanks for always sharing the the lives of your family through the photos  and the memories of the good old days.
Time to get well now.
We're rooting for you.

Bro Burton 
Svend Kuhr
Svend Kuhr
Dear Bud and family,

Who would have thunk?  When the two young brothers, Jakob and Kresten, left their home in Denmark to come to California, the last thing on their minds was how their decision would lead to happy reunions more than 100 years later.  Dealing with the immediate issues at hand was enough.  New country.  New language.  New everything!  To deal with the future beyond the current season was irrelevant.  The two young men did well in the new country, but Kresten got sick with an unknown illness.  He decided to go back to Denmark to get well and then rejoin his brother in California later.  He did get well all right but he never made that second trip across the ocean, and the two brothers would never meet again.  Being farm boys with very little formal schooling, the only form of communication at the time, letter writing, did not work very well.  The last letter from Jakob was dated August 1904.  The two brothers would carry on with their separate lives, including raising families of their own, on two different continents.  But they never knew whether the other one “made it” or not.  It would be late in the 20th Century before that letter from 1904 turned out to be instrumental in the two families finding each other.  Well, it is not two families.  It is ONE family.  Along the way, this family has been enriched by a long string of spouses, children, and in-laws.  A strong infusion of richness occurred when one of Jakob’s grandkids, Betty, married Bud and they raised their family in Woodlake, CA.  I can not even begin to explain the strength of the bond that we found existed across the ocean within our family, and Bud was always a strong component in this bond.  It is a privilege to know you, Bud.  Your positive outlook and your fun loving nature is contagious.  We are grateful that you were part of the deal when the family was reunited.  It just would not have been the same without you.  And we don’t care about the correctness of the terminology.  You ARE our cousin.  Thank you for being you!  Thank you for all the wonderful memories.  We love you.

Mette and Svend 
Karla Quiroga
Karla Quiroga
Dear Kilburn Family:
You are all in my thoughts and prayers.  While I only met Bud a few times, I feel like I know him thanks to all the great stories and wonderful photos shared on this website.  I can't help but also get a feel for Bud's personality through knowing David ... always there to laugh with you or at you. ;)  He has welcomed me to not only the ASN family, but as part of his extended family.  In the short time I've known David, he's become a genuine friend.  I know that it is in thanks to the whole Kilburn family that he is a part of.  I wish you all lots of hugs during this journey together.
Edie Kahn
Edie Kahn
Hi, All -

You guys are all in my thoughts.  My few active brain cells just produced a memory of Bud coming to my rescue.  I had gone up to Robert's cabin and my elderly car was acting up on the way up the hill.  Then, during the week I was there, it began to snow.  And it snowed.  And it snowed.  I talked to David and my panic about how I was going to get out of there must have come through loud and clear.  He, a true friend, called Bud, who called Robert.  Bud then called me to announce that he and Robert would be coming up to the cabin to check out my car and to help me dig out and save my sorry ass (my words, not his).  No arguments - no discussions.  True to his word, they were there an hour later, with shovels and transmission fluid in hand and smiles on their faces.  Bud teased me mercilessly (maybe he did say something about my sorry ass...), but helped get me out of there and he and Robert followed me all the way down the hill to make sure I was okay.  Obviously, I am not the only one who has experienced Bud's kindness and his willingness to go above and beyond for someone.  So many stories in this guestbook show how Bud treats his friends and family and all of us are thankful, not only for the particular favor, but thankful that Bud is in our lives.

Much love -
Cathy Lewis
Cathy Lewis
What a beautiful gift you have been given to be sharing this time surrounded by family and love. I send light,love and energy to all!
 What kind of bird is Bud holding in last posted picture of Bud? You know me and birds, Doesn't look like a Turkey or Peacock.. Quail perhaps? I love you all!