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Michelle Bencriscutto-Engler
Michelle Bencriscutto-Engler
I cannot believe it has been over a year. I kept Mr. Conley and his family in my prayers so much over the time I knew of the illness that even now, he (and the family) pop into my prayers as part of my "routine" each night. Bruce touched my life in ways that I could never explain to anyone given the brief, but meaningful encounters I was lucky enough to experience when I was a student, and while I lived in the Kaneland community. He was a source of information and inspiration from the day I first saw him speak, through today. His presence and grace was strong and amazing. I thank God for him in my life and in the lives of all those who were lucky enough to know him.


God Bless,


Michelle 
Joann Thorsen
Joann Thorsen
To Kris and family.  My deepest condolences on Bruce's passing.  You have been in my thoughts but I hadn't checked your website in over a year.  I have great memories of our school years and wish we could have stayed close.  You have a great family and lots of wonderful friends.  God Bless you all.  Joann Thorsen (Pierson) Chandler, Arizona 
Debra Hennig
Debra Hennig
Leaving my condolences for the family. Bruce was a wonderful man and helped my family through two very tough deaths from suicide. I will never forget how he handled explaining things to the children in the family and how gentle and kind he was with all of us. God has gained the presence of a truly good man.
Debbie Adamson Hennig
Newnan Georgia
Tom Fink
Tom Fink
t was exactly 6 years ago today Sept. 17 that our son Robert died. That day I met an angel named Bruce Conley who was the funeral director for Robert's funeral. He made something unbearable seem manageable and afterwards started me doing funeral webcasts for Conley Funeral Home. He was a boss, mentor and an amazing friend to myself and my family. And today I webcast Bruce's funeral. Time has come full circle.
Pam Ferdinand
Pam Ferdinand
Kris, Ben Sarah and the Whole Kaneland Community,

Iam convinced that Bruce Conley was an angel that we were so lucky to have with us for so long.  His guidance through all of our times of sorrow was truly more than human - he was sent to us from God and has been such a caretaker to our whole community.  I particualrly remember his guidance through all of the tragic deaths of our young people at Kaneland - how he brought us all together and helped us know how to help the students.  Our angel will be truly missed but I know he will continue to watch over us from above.

Pam Ferdinand
Amy Woods
Amy Woods
I am so sorry to hear of Bruce's passing. He was such a wonderful man. I knew Bruce through my activities with VNA of Fox Valley Hospice. He was always so generous with his time and also allowing us to hold our Walk to Remember at his farm several years ago. The world is definitely better for Bruce having been here. Prayers go out to his family. Please know Bruce touched so many lives that you have no idea. His entries on Caring Bridge have been an inspiration to me.
Barbara Maxwell Kelley
Barbara Maxwell Kelley
Dear Conley family,
     After I found my husband on the garage floor, Bruce was called.  What comfort I found knowing I was in the Conley family's precious hand.  I was cared for from that first moment.  Bruce explained death to my grandson, Nick who became a buddy of Tiggers since they both loved dark chocolate, and my grand nieces and nephews who were also afraid to approach the casket.  They were comfortable with the turtle explaination.  What a clever man!  I will  always remember the kindness.
Russetta Rauch
Russetta Rauch
My wish is that all of your family will receive comfort from God and from all the others that you have been such a comfort to in the hardest of times. DeKalb Hospice worked with both of my parents (Russell and Joan Flanders) and they are just wonderful. I'm glad they were with him.

Russetta Rauch
Carla Vanatta
Carla Vanatta
Our love and prayers to all of Bruce's family as you lay his body to rest and know he is whole and well in God's very presence.  Indeed his writing through this journal has blessed me and countless others, and his faith, love of life, and perspectives will remain a gift.

Ron and Carla Vanatta
Trudy Zeliasz
Trudy Zeliasz
Ben,
Thanks so much for posting for your Father...what a great guy your dad was and all he did for mankind....his gift of words has truly inspired me along with thousands of others and may you and your family be blessed as you go thru this jouney.  We know he's in a better place but it's still hard to let go.
My sympathy to your and your mom and sister and families.
God Bless,
Trudy
Aaron Souders
Aaron Souders
When I heard of Bruce's passing, I went into the office in "the big city" to explain that I would be leaving early this week to attend a wake. When asked who had passed away, I sat and tried to think how I could possibly explain this to a group of individuals that had spent their entire lives within the hustle and bustle of Chicago. I simply stated "an icon".

Growing up in Elburn was an experience all it's own, and growing up as a Stoffa made it all the more unique. When my grandfather George Stoffa passed away, the proceedings were, of course, held at Conley's funeral home. Having been away from the homestead and living life outside the little bubble that is Elburn, Illinois, it was viewed in a different perspective than I would have been able to ascertain from any other point in my life.

My grandmother, a woman I've always held a profound respect for, was faced with the loss of the only constant of her life, her husband and partner of over 50 years. The sheer thought of it cannot be processed by anyone who hasn't experienced it. But when it was all said and done, and the day was over, the only thing that she could say was how wonderful the procession went and how she felt more at peace with everything that had transpired. I find that to be beyond comparison and truly wonderous. To this day, she still finds comfort and the will to move forward based upon the events of that day, even years after the fact.

What Bruce meant to the community defies genuine description. The thousands that passed through that hall that day, not to mention the hundreds of thousands that have likely done the same over the years all have experienced the despair of originally walking through those doors (as it's rarely a cherished moment), but left feeling somewhat better about everything in general. It's mystifying as to how one person could impact so many others and retain their own humanity at the same time. I doubt there are very few, if any, who currently inhabit this earth that could do the same.

But at the same time, I know that that role can be taken over by Ben. Having known him since preschool, it was genuinely inspirational to see the part that he played during the funeral. I remember having a discussion with him, advising him he had to do this. It was his calling, it was his gift, and it was something that simply can't be done by anyone else. I trust in the coming weeks and months and years he will come to recognize that fact if he already hasn't. It certainly won't be easy, but I know that this tradition, this pillar of the community, rests in his hands and the entire town should take comfort in the fact that it will be so.

I don't know what drove Bruce to be the man that he was, but I can only hope that in our small interactions with him at our lowest points, we took a piece of that with us, for we will all be much better people for doing so.

Thank you Bruce, for taking something that on the surface appeared so painful, and turning it into something so special. May we all take those lessons with us into our journies ahead.
Joann Thorsen
Joann Thorsen
To Kris and family.  My deepest condolences on Bruce's passing.  You have been in my thoughts but I hadn't checked your website in over a year.  I have great memories of our school years and wish we could have stayed close.  You have a great family and lots of wonderful friends.  God Bless you all.  Joann Thorsen (Pierson) Chandler, Arizona 
Tom Fink
Tom Fink
t was exactly 6 years ago today Sept. 17 that our son Robert died. That day I met an angel named Bruce Conley who was the funeral director for Robert's funeral. He made something unbearable seem manageable and afterwards started me doing funeral webcasts for Conley Funeral Home. He was a boss, mentor and an amazing friend to myself and my family. And today I webcast Bruce's funeral. Time has come full circle.
Amy Woods
Amy Woods
I am so sorry to hear of Bruce's passing. He was such a wonderful man. I knew Bruce through my activities with VNA of Fox Valley Hospice. He was always so generous with his time and also allowing us to hold our Walk to Remember at his farm several years ago. The world is definitely better for Bruce having been here. Prayers go out to his family. Please know Bruce touched so many lives that you have no idea. His entries on Caring Bridge have been an inspiration to me.
Barbara Maxwell Kelley
Barbara Maxwell Kelley
Dear Conley family,
     After I found my husband on the garage floor, Bruce was called.  What comfort I found knowing I was in the Conley family's precious hand.  I was cared for from that first moment.  Bruce explained death to my grandson, Nick who became a buddy of Tiggers since they both loved dark chocolate, and my grand nieces and nephews who were also afraid to approach the casket.  They were comfortable with the turtle explaination.  What a clever man!  I will  always remember the kindness.
Carla Vanatta
Carla Vanatta
Our love and prayers to all of Bruce's family as you lay his body to rest and know he is whole and well in God's very presence.  Indeed his writing through this journal has blessed me and countless others, and his faith, love of life, and perspectives will remain a gift.

Ron and Carla Vanatta
Trudy Zeliasz
Trudy Zeliasz
Ben,
Thanks so much for posting for your Father...what a great guy your dad was and all he did for mankind....his gift of words has truly inspired me along with thousands of others and may you and your family be blessed as you go thru this jouney.  We know he's in a better place but it's still hard to let go.
My sympathy to your and your mom and sister and families.
God Bless,
Trudy
Michelle Bencriscutto-Engler
Michelle Bencriscutto-Engler
I cannot believe it has been over a year. I kept Mr. Conley and his family in my prayers so much over the time I knew of the illness that even now, he (and the family) pop into my prayers as part of my "routine" each night. Bruce touched my life in ways that I could never explain to anyone given the brief, but meaningful encounters I was lucky enough to experience when I was a student, and while I lived in the Kaneland community. He was a source of information and inspiration from the day I first saw him speak, through today. His presence and grace was strong and amazing. I thank God for him in my life and in the lives of all those who were lucky enough to know him.


God Bless,


Michelle 
Debra Hennig
Debra Hennig
Leaving my condolences for the family. Bruce was a wonderful man and helped my family through two very tough deaths from suicide. I will never forget how he handled explaining things to the children in the family and how gentle and kind he was with all of us. God has gained the presence of a truly good man.
Debbie Adamson Hennig
Newnan Georgia
Pam Ferdinand
Pam Ferdinand
Kris, Ben Sarah and the Whole Kaneland Community,

Iam convinced that Bruce Conley was an angel that we were so lucky to have with us for so long.  His guidance through all of our times of sorrow was truly more than human - he was sent to us from God and has been such a caretaker to our whole community.  I particualrly remember his guidance through all of the tragic deaths of our young people at Kaneland - how he brought us all together and helped us know how to help the students.  Our angel will be truly missed but I know he will continue to watch over us from above.

Pam Ferdinand
Russetta Rauch
Russetta Rauch
My wish is that all of your family will receive comfort from God and from all the others that you have been such a comfort to in the hardest of times. DeKalb Hospice worked with both of my parents (Russell and Joan Flanders) and they are just wonderful. I'm glad they were with him.

Russetta Rauch
Aaron Souders
Aaron Souders
When I heard of Bruce's passing, I went into the office in "the big city" to explain that I would be leaving early this week to attend a wake. When asked who had passed away, I sat and tried to think how I could possibly explain this to a group of individuals that had spent their entire lives within the hustle and bustle of Chicago. I simply stated "an icon".

Growing up in Elburn was an experience all it's own, and growing up as a Stoffa made it all the more unique. When my grandfather George Stoffa passed away, the proceedings were, of course, held at Conley's funeral home. Having been away from the homestead and living life outside the little bubble that is Elburn, Illinois, it was viewed in a different perspective than I would have been able to ascertain from any other point in my life.

My grandmother, a woman I've always held a profound respect for, was faced with the loss of the only constant of her life, her husband and partner of over 50 years. The sheer thought of it cannot be processed by anyone who hasn't experienced it. But when it was all said and done, and the day was over, the only thing that she could say was how wonderful the procession went and how she felt more at peace with everything that had transpired. I find that to be beyond comparison and truly wonderous. To this day, she still finds comfort and the will to move forward based upon the events of that day, even years after the fact.

What Bruce meant to the community defies genuine description. The thousands that passed through that hall that day, not to mention the hundreds of thousands that have likely done the same over the years all have experienced the despair of originally walking through those doors (as it's rarely a cherished moment), but left feeling somewhat better about everything in general. It's mystifying as to how one person could impact so many others and retain their own humanity at the same time. I doubt there are very few, if any, who currently inhabit this earth that could do the same.

But at the same time, I know that that role can be taken over by Ben. Having known him since preschool, it was genuinely inspirational to see the part that he played during the funeral. I remember having a discussion with him, advising him he had to do this. It was his calling, it was his gift, and it was something that simply can't be done by anyone else. I trust in the coming weeks and months and years he will come to recognize that fact if he already hasn't. It certainly won't be easy, but I know that this tradition, this pillar of the community, rests in his hands and the entire town should take comfort in the fact that it will be so.

I don't know what drove Bruce to be the man that he was, but I can only hope that in our small interactions with him at our lowest points, we took a piece of that with us, for we will all be much better people for doing so.

Thank you Bruce, for taking something that on the surface appeared so painful, and turning it into something so special. May we all take those lessons with us into our journies ahead.
Tom Fink
Tom Fink
t was exactly 6 years ago today Sept. 17 that our son Robert died. That day I met an angel named Bruce Conley who was the funeral director for Robert's funeral. He made something unbearable seem manageable and afterwards started me doing funeral webcasts for Conley Funeral Home. He was a boss, mentor and an amazing friend to myself and my family. And today I webcast Bruce's funeral. Time has come full circle.
Michelle Bencriscutto-Engler
Michelle Bencriscutto-Engler
I cannot believe it has been over a year. I kept Mr. Conley and his family in my prayers so much over the time I knew of the illness that even now, he (and the family) pop into my prayers as part of my "routine" each night. Bruce touched my life in ways that I could never explain to anyone given the brief, but meaningful encounters I was lucky enough to experience when I was a student, and while I lived in the Kaneland community. He was a source of information and inspiration from the day I first saw him speak, through today. His presence and grace was strong and amazing. I thank God for him in my life and in the lives of all those who were lucky enough to know him.


God Bless,


Michelle 
Pam Ferdinand
Pam Ferdinand
Kris, Ben Sarah and the Whole Kaneland Community,

Iam convinced that Bruce Conley was an angel that we were so lucky to have with us for so long.  His guidance through all of our times of sorrow was truly more than human - he was sent to us from God and has been such a caretaker to our whole community.  I particualrly remember his guidance through all of the tragic deaths of our young people at Kaneland - how he brought us all together and helped us know how to help the students.  Our angel will be truly missed but I know he will continue to watch over us from above.

Pam Ferdinand
Barbara Maxwell Kelley
Barbara Maxwell Kelley
Dear Conley family,
     After I found my husband on the garage floor, Bruce was called.  What comfort I found knowing I was in the Conley family's precious hand.  I was cared for from that first moment.  Bruce explained death to my grandson, Nick who became a buddy of Tiggers since they both loved dark chocolate, and my grand nieces and nephews who were also afraid to approach the casket.  They were comfortable with the turtle explaination.  What a clever man!  I will  always remember the kindness.
Russetta Rauch
Russetta Rauch
My wish is that all of your family will receive comfort from God and from all the others that you have been such a comfort to in the hardest of times. DeKalb Hospice worked with both of my parents (Russell and Joan Flanders) and they are just wonderful. I'm glad they were with him.

Russetta Rauch
Trudy Zeliasz
Trudy Zeliasz
Ben,
Thanks so much for posting for your Father...what a great guy your dad was and all he did for mankind....his gift of words has truly inspired me along with thousands of others and may you and your family be blessed as you go thru this jouney.  We know he's in a better place but it's still hard to let go.
My sympathy to your and your mom and sister and families.
God Bless,
Trudy
Joann Thorsen
Joann Thorsen
To Kris and family.  My deepest condolences on Bruce's passing.  You have been in my thoughts but I hadn't checked your website in over a year.  I have great memories of our school years and wish we could have stayed close.  You have a great family and lots of wonderful friends.  God Bless you all.  Joann Thorsen (Pierson) Chandler, Arizona 
Debra Hennig
Debra Hennig
Leaving my condolences for the family. Bruce was a wonderful man and helped my family through two very tough deaths from suicide. I will never forget how he handled explaining things to the children in the family and how gentle and kind he was with all of us. God has gained the presence of a truly good man.
Debbie Adamson Hennig
Newnan Georgia
Amy Woods
Amy Woods
I am so sorry to hear of Bruce's passing. He was such a wonderful man. I knew Bruce through my activities with VNA of Fox Valley Hospice. He was always so generous with his time and also allowing us to hold our Walk to Remember at his farm several years ago. The world is definitely better for Bruce having been here. Prayers go out to his family. Please know Bruce touched so many lives that you have no idea. His entries on Caring Bridge have been an inspiration to me.
Carla Vanatta
Carla Vanatta
Our love and prayers to all of Bruce's family as you lay his body to rest and know he is whole and well in God's very presence.  Indeed his writing through this journal has blessed me and countless others, and his faith, love of life, and perspectives will remain a gift.

Ron and Carla Vanatta
Aaron Souders
Aaron Souders
When I heard of Bruce's passing, I went into the office in "the big city" to explain that I would be leaving early this week to attend a wake. When asked who had passed away, I sat and tried to think how I could possibly explain this to a group of individuals that had spent their entire lives within the hustle and bustle of Chicago. I simply stated "an icon".

Growing up in Elburn was an experience all it's own, and growing up as a Stoffa made it all the more unique. When my grandfather George Stoffa passed away, the proceedings were, of course, held at Conley's funeral home. Having been away from the homestead and living life outside the little bubble that is Elburn, Illinois, it was viewed in a different perspective than I would have been able to ascertain from any other point in my life.

My grandmother, a woman I've always held a profound respect for, was faced with the loss of the only constant of her life, her husband and partner of over 50 years. The sheer thought of it cannot be processed by anyone who hasn't experienced it. But when it was all said and done, and the day was over, the only thing that she could say was how wonderful the procession went and how she felt more at peace with everything that had transpired. I find that to be beyond comparison and truly wonderous. To this day, she still finds comfort and the will to move forward based upon the events of that day, even years after the fact.

What Bruce meant to the community defies genuine description. The thousands that passed through that hall that day, not to mention the hundreds of thousands that have likely done the same over the years all have experienced the despair of originally walking through those doors (as it's rarely a cherished moment), but left feeling somewhat better about everything in general. It's mystifying as to how one person could impact so many others and retain their own humanity at the same time. I doubt there are very few, if any, who currently inhabit this earth that could do the same.

But at the same time, I know that that role can be taken over by Ben. Having known him since preschool, it was genuinely inspirational to see the part that he played during the funeral. I remember having a discussion with him, advising him he had to do this. It was his calling, it was his gift, and it was something that simply can't be done by anyone else. I trust in the coming weeks and months and years he will come to recognize that fact if he already hasn't. It certainly won't be easy, but I know that this tradition, this pillar of the community, rests in his hands and the entire town should take comfort in the fact that it will be so.

I don't know what drove Bruce to be the man that he was, but I can only hope that in our small interactions with him at our lowest points, we took a piece of that with us, for we will all be much better people for doing so.

Thank you Bruce, for taking something that on the surface appeared so painful, and turning it into something so special. May we all take those lessons with us into our journies ahead.