Becky Nunn's Journal
Written Jul 22, 2010 10:18amWow, It's been so long since I've written here. Honestly I wasn't sure if I ever would again. But I wanted to let y'all know how Mom's family was doing.
It's hard to believe it's been 4 months since Mom took her last breath. That moment will be with me forever. Bitterweet for sure. We are all coping as you'd expect. The first 2 months were incredibly tough for all of us. Bud's birthday was in April and it was hard for him to celebrate without his Becky. Then came Mother's Day, which I think I cried practically the whole day. I'm sure Tricia did too. A few days after that was Mom's birthday. She would have been 64.
Tears and sadness are still with us, but it has gotten better that's for sure. I think and talk about Mom every day. Some days are sadder than others, but we are all trying to do what she would want us to do and that is to live our lives joyfully, not sit around crying for her....after all she's doing amazingly well these days :)
I wrote a devotion that I'd like to share with you. If you've ever lost someone or experienced grieving over anything, I think you will be able to relate. Click here to read "God's Will for Me to Grieve". I pray it will bless you.
Thanks again for the love and support and prayers you showed all of us during Mom's life, especially when she was so sick. I hope I've been able to express in a small way what you all meant to our family. And I think I also need to ask some major forgiveness. I still haven't written my thank you notes! I know I know, that's horrible. I don't have a good excuse and I hope no one thinks I'm ungrateful. I'm sorry, I do plan on writing them, hopefully soon :)
I'd love to hear from you if you have the time.
Written Apr 1, 2010 6:25amThe following is the last of 3 Eulogies read at Becky Nunn's funeral. This one titled "A Life of Laughter" was written by Becky's oldest gransdson, Blake.
A Life of Laughter
Becky Nunn, or as her grandchildren called her, Mamaw, loved to have fun. Although her location and eventually, physical health, changed, one constant that remained was her ability to make almost anything funny.
In our preschool years, a sleepover at Mamaw’s house meant rocking-chair lullabies and wild goose chases around the living room, complete with her comically screaming right behind us as we “ran for our lives.” Once she and Papaw moved to Florida, our visits with them were filled with countless excursions to the beach and rides on their golf cart, hardly ever going anywhere in particular but always enjoying each others’ company.
In 2005 Mamaw and Papaw returned permanently to the Carolinas, residing in a quaint Rock Hill home. This turned out to be an unfathomable blessing towards the end of Mamaw’s life. We were able to see her much more often. We spent many afternoons of quality time relaxing by her pool, followed by a meal of her famous macaroni & cheese and sweet tea. And of course, what was a visit to Mamaw’s house without watching at least a few minutes of Oprah.
On the way to school every morning, my dad gives me a pithy, inspirational phrase for the day; something to think about and live by as I go about my daily routine. Its content varies from well-known quotes to Biblical lessons. One morning while Mamaw was at our house, Dad asked her if she could provide my thought for that day. We waited for a moment, expecting her to tell us a profound statement accounting for years of wisdom. Instead, she remarked “Never do today what you can put off ‘till tomorrow!” before busting into her classic, hysterical laugh.
That’s the most substantial imprint Mamaw left on me: that even when obstacles arise that simply can’t be overcome, a positive, cheerful attitude can brighten any situation. It may not solve everything, but it sure will make it a whole lot better. Even during the most painful stages of her cancer journey, while watching American Idol she still cranked out plenty of humorous sarcastic remarks that rivaled anything Simon Cowell could ever criticize.
Mamaw’s infectious joy is what I’ll remember most about her and carry on with me from her legacy. She always brought an extra dose of laughter with her everywhere she went, making the most of every day and courageously persevering until the very end.
Written Mar 31, 2010 6:13amAs promised, I'm putting the Eulogies from Mom's funeral on here to kind of wrap things up. If you missed yesterday's, please go back and read it. It was Becca's words written and spoken for her beloved "MawMaw". I said I was going to post Blake's today, but have decided to wait and post his tomorrow. Instead, today you'll be reading the words that I spoke.
In thanking so many people, I failed to thank the many who brought food to our family. We never had to worry about feeding anyone, there was plenty of great comfort food that not only carried us through last week, but will carry us for weeks! Thank you friends and neighbors of Bud. And to the friends of mine who stepped up and contributed so much to Bud's house and also to mine, I love you much!!!
Hope you all enjoy today's excerpt from Mom's "Celebration of Life" service.
A Message from Mom…
First, I just have to say how much all of you have meant to our family. We love you and know you loved Becky.
I stand here today not to tell you what my mother meant to me or how wonderful of a woman she was. I hope you already know that. I stand here today to give you a message from her. This is what she wants you to know.
Mom and I had a lot of time together over the past 1 ½ years. We took time to talk and dream. I asked her if she could impart any wisdom to others, what would it be? She said, “2 things”:
1. Don’t place your faith in things of this world. All of them are temporary. As someone who knew she was dying, Mom learned that only God could provide everything she needs. Nothing else made her feel at peace but God. There’s a reason for that. She knew that what God offered was real…it was permanent…and no one could take it away. And she’s right. Here are a few verses from God’s Word that have really helped us, specifically Mom, over the past few months:
Joshua 1:9- “Have I not commanded you, “Be strong and courageous. Do not be terrified; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go.” The fact that Mom knew God was with her, was all the courage she needed. And her courage in these last few months has been a beautiful example to us all.
Denise Hammond, a dear friend to our family, shared another passage of Scripture with us that brought strength and peace.
Psalm 73:23-26, “Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory… My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.” Becky wants all of you to know that she was able to face this because of God. She didn’t die scared. She cried because she didn’t want to leave all of us. But she had peace knowing that God would be with her to carry her into glory. She said she’d tried to find peace like that, but never found it until she decided to trust the Lord.
Don’t smoke. She really struggled with guilt over her lung cancer. It could have been prevented. Knowing that, she hopes that through her life, someone else’s life will be saved. She was never preachy about it, but she doesn’t want anyone to suffer like she did. And she doesn’t want anyone’s family to suffer like hers has. Eventually she came to terms with it. And again, we find hope and strength in God’s Word. Philippians 1:18-20 sums up the joy she was able to find through her suffering:
“Yes, and I will continue to rejoice, for I know that through your prayers and the help given by the Spirit of Jesus Christ, what has happened to me will turn out for my deliverance. I eagerly expect and hope that I will in no way be ashamed, but will have sufficient courage so that now as always Christ will be exalted in my body, whether by life or by death.”
In her death, we hope you have seen Jesus.
Other things we discussed:
Mom’s favorite word: Hope.
Word that describes her best: Courage.
Favorite flower: Yellow Tose
Favorite color: Purple
Favorite Sport: Football
Favorite vacation spot: Ocean Drive
Proudest moment: The births of her kids and grandkids.
Maggie. (her dog)
Laughing with friends.
Kings Gate in Florida.
Pepperidge Farm Apple Turnovers.
The Gamecocks. (and she was thrilled that the last USC/Clemson game she got to see, the Gamecocks won.)
Thank you all so much for coming today to remember Becky Nunn. If she were here, she would tell you not only to remember her, but to celebrate life.
Besides our friends and family, I’d also like to thank those that cared for Mom during her illness. Dr. Pamela Sinclair and her staff at Cancer Specialty Center, various doctors and nurses at Carolinas Medical Center, and most of all Agape Hospice here in Rock Hill. Margaret and Pat, Mom’s nurses from Hospice meant so much to Mom and our family. These women are truly gifts from God and we will never forget them.
Finally I’d like to share with you what Mom shared with me as her #1 life lesson: And I quote her on this, “Cherish each and every day. Love your family while you’re with them.”