This is such a big, ugly, hairy, scary monster. I think the "R" word is far worse than the "C" word ever was.
I know it must seem like lightning has struck three times in your family, and that makes my heart feel so very heavy. Please know that we love you, and while we can't take this burden from you, we bear it with you.
Did you hear about the pirate who walked into the restaurant with a paper towel on his head?
The manager asked him what it was for, and he said, "I have a bounty on my head"!