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My Story

Hi! Welcome to our CaringBridge website. We've created it to keep friends and family updated about Anthony's medical journey, to help us remember what Anthony has endured and to show how God has walked with us along the way. Some of the pictures we have posted of Anthony after surgery may be difficult for young children to see, so please use caution as you look through the photo section. We appreciate your continued prayers and hope our updates will allow you to pray for his specific needs. Thank you for visiting!



On the last day of 2002, baby number 3 arrived during a particularly stormy morning in Mobile, Alabama. After a very normal pregnancy, complete with several weeks (or was it months?) of morning sickness and all the other usual pregnancy pleasantries, a scheduled c-section was the means of his arrival. It was a textbook delivery with our new son getting a perfect score on his Apgar test! He was named and whisked off to the hospital nursery while they finished with me in the OR. We were, and still are, thrilled to have added Anthony Patrick to our family, giving our daughters, Samantha and Abby, a baby brother. (Samantha, by the way, had prayed for just that about a year before his birth!)

After an extremely long wait in the recovery room without seeing the baby, we asked a nurse about the delay. She said, "His lungs are a bit wet which is common for a c-section baby. We will bring him to you soon." So we waited. And waited. Finally a nurse came to take us to see him in the nursery. He looked beautiful and when I asked the nurse attending to him how he was doing, she answered, "He is doing well, aside from the heart murmur."

Heart murmur? Obviously she thought we had already heard the news. Unknown to us, our pediatrician heard a heart murmur and immediately had him checked by a pediatric cardiologist who "just happened"* to be in the nursery at the same time Anthony arrived.  *Read: "God ordained." After I had been transferred to my own room the cardiologist entered the room with a drawing in her hand. This was our first moment to learn that whenever a doctor draws a picture of something, there is a problem.

Bicuspid valve. Aortic valve stenosis. Surgery. Atlanta, Birmingham, or New Orleans. Critical. We had a very quick introduction to the world of congenital heart defects during this relatively short meeting in my hospital room. Before I had been worried about the delay in starting breastfeeding; then I found out that breastfeeding him could kill him because of the strain on his heart. Before I had been wondering when I could hold him; then I found out that he was so sick that he would not even be staying in the same hospital with me. Before I thought that open-heart surgery on a newborn would be too risky; then I found out that not doing open-heart surgery on our newborn would result in death. How can so much change so quickly?

The nurses responsible for transferring Anthony to another local hospital took pity on me. The tears in my eyes and the news that I had yet to hold him moved them to break the rules. They removed Anthony from his special covered bed and let me hold him before they transported him. What a joy to feel him in my arms after hours of waiting. His immediate instinct to nurse broke my heart as I had to refuse him. I will never forget that goodbye.

Ray stayed with him. The girls saw him. Then Ray and Anthony were flown to Atlanta, specifically to Egleston Children's Hopsital, connected with Emory University. A few days later the girls and I joined them there. (Thank you to Ray's mom and dad and to my sister for helping us during this time!)

We were now in a place where we were not alone. There were other shell-shocked parents wandering the halls. Other moms wheeled in wheelchairs because they, too, had just had c-sections. There were others pumping milk in the provided room and storing their breast milk in the CICU freezer hoping that someday it would be used. Here we were flooded with new information and experiences. Here we saw beyond the diagnosis. We saw the faces of the children; some of whom had repair surgeries, some of whom had heart transplants, and one on whom last rites had been performed. Here we learned the risks and the potential complications. But, here, we also learned to hope.

The doctors watched Anthony for the first few days. For awhile they paralyzed him to keep him from over-exerting. On the 6th of January they performed a balloon valvuloplasty. They had hoped it would open the stenotic--narrowed--valve. It failed. In fact, his condition worsened.

On January 9th they scheduled a Ross procedure. Little did we know at the time, but the cardiac floor was "abuzz" with the news that the Herman baby was going to have a "Ross." It was not common to perform this procedure on a newborn, but for Anthony this surgery was his only chance of survival. They successfully took out his malformed aortic valve, replaced it with his own pulmonary valve, and replaced his pulmonary valve with a homograft--a cadaver's valve. He started out with one compromised valve and ended up with two, but it saved his life. Ten years earlier there would have been no option for us. God is good!

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Kathleen Herman posted a new journal entry.

Anthony has run the gamut when it comes to rejection.3R.2R.1R.And now....0!!Yesterday's biopsy revealed that Anthony's heart is showing ZERO signs of rejection!Although we ... Read more

Ellie Cole signed Anthony's Guestbook.

Thank you, Holy Spirit for healing. Thank you,Jesus for your sacrificial blood to cleanse us. Thank you, God for your abiding love. Claimg Colette healing and forever ... Read more

Kathleen Herman posted a new journal entry.

After an emotional homecoming--who knew I would burst into tears the minute I walked into the house?!--and a wonderful week with the family, Anthony and I are back in ... Read more

Sandra Harris signed Anthony's Guestbook.

We are so thrilled that all of you are home.  We have been praying for you all and will continue to do so.Love, Sandra and Marvin Harris Read more

sharon raef signed Anthony's Guestbook.

That's wonderful new!!!! Praise God from whom all Blessings flow! I will be praying that things continue to go well at home!!! Love to all,  Read more

Faith Dossett signed Anthony's Guestbook.

Thank you, Lord, for taking care of this little boy and bringing him and his family back home. Read more

Kathleen Herman posted a new journal entry.

"This is the day the Lord has made; We will rejoice and be glad in it!" Psalm 118:24  On the first of January, as we drove to Dallas for Anthony's transplant, I ... Read more

Jan Thomas signed Anthony's Guestbook.

So glad he did not have to go to the hospital.  I'm sure you have thought about this, but would more water possibly prevent the headaches after the biopsies?  Just ... Read more

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