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Remembering Ben and Stancie

Dec 21, 2011 3:35pm

When we were in Barcelona, my cousin Stancie came to be with us.  She had been a flight attendant with Pan Am for decades and was at that time with Delta.  She made everything happen to get us home - on American, so we could fly into Newark rather than LaGuardia.  The entire crew attended to our every need.  I'm not sure how she made this all happen, but that was Stancie. 

Sadly, Stancie died this year at the tender age of 61.  While Ben did not travel the world for 40 years as she did, he was well on his way to becoming a world citizen "a la mode de Stancie."  (Those who knew her will especially appreciate what I am saying here!) At her memorial service, this blessing was read. While I don't like the notion of a predetermined plan for one's life and death, there is much here I do like.   Stancie and Ben were kindred spirits in many ways. They valued friendship and fun and laughter.  They stood by their friends and came to their aid without a moment's hesitation.  Their lives were full, if all too brief. 

An Irish Blessing for Remembered Joy

Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free -
I followed the plan God laid for me.
I could not stay another day,
To love, to laugh, to work or play;
Tasks undone must stay that way.
And if my parting leaves a void,
fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss...
Ah yes, these things I too shall miss.
My life's been full, I've savoured much;
Good times, good friends, a loved one's touch.
Perhaps my time seemed all too brief -
Don't shorten yours with undue grief.
Be not burdened with tears of sorrow.
Enjoy the sunshine of the morrow. 


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