Angel Dylan

Dylan: July 31st, 2003

Welcome to Dylan's page. It has been created to keep everyone who loves him updated.


Born: November 22, 2000
Diagnosed with JMML: February 13, 2003
Bone Marrow Transplant: July 17, 2003
Relapsed: September 23, 2003
Became an Angel: February 11, 2004
Living in the hearts of those who love him!!

***my mom is a survivor
by kaye des'ormeaux

my mom is a survivor, or so I've heard it said.
but I hear her crying at night when all the others are in bed.
I watch her lay awake at night and go to hold her hand.
she doesn't know I'm with her to help her understand.
but like the sands on the beach that never wash away...
I watch over my surviving mom, who thinks of me each day.
she wears a smile for others...a smile of disguise.
but through heaven's door I see tears flowing from her eyes.
my mom tries to cope with death to keep my memory alive.
but anyone who knows her knows it is her way to survive.
as I watch over my surviving mom...through heaven's open door.
I try to tell her that angels protect me forever more.
but I know that doesn't help her or ease the burden she bears.
so if you get a chance, go visit her...show her that you care.
for no matter what she says...no matter what she feels.
my surviving mom has a broken heart that time won't ever heal.***

***Don't cry for me because I'm gone
Smile for me because I happened!***

***I think of how much I miss him and feel sorry for myself,
then I think of all the people who never met him,
and I feel sorry for them...***

***I'll see you in my dreams tonight,
The way I always do,
I'll hug my pillow really tight & make believe it's you.***

Every second of every minute,
Every minute of every hour,
Every hour of every day,
Every day of every week,
Every week of every month,
Every month of every year...
I WILL REMEMBER YOU!

The 5 Stages of Grief

1.Denial - The "No, not me" stage.

This stage is filled with disbelief and denial. If your partner has died you still expect him to walk through the door. If your partner has asked for a break-up you think that she will change her mind.

2.Anger/Resentment - The "Why me?" stage.

Anger at the situation, your partner and others are common. You are angry with the other person for causing the situation and for causing you pain. You might feel anger at your deceased partner for dying. You may feel anger at your partner for asking for a divorce and breaking up the family.

3. Bargaining - The "If I do this, you'll do that" stage.

You try to negotiate to change the situation. If you've lost a spouse to death you might bargain with God, "I'll be a better person if you'd just bring him back". You might approach your partner who is asking for the break-up and say "If you'll stay I'll change".

4. Depression- The "Its really happened" stage.

You realize the situation isn't going to change. The death or break-up happened and there is nothing to bring the other person back. Acknowledgement of the situation often bring depression. This could be a quiet, withdrawn time as you soak in the situation.

5. Acceptance - The "This is what happened" stage.

Though you haven't forgotten what happened you are able to begin to move forward.

Adapted from Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, 'On Death and Dying'

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Journal

Saturday, December 8, 2007 10:58 PM CST

I can't believe it has been almost a year since I have update this page. Not much has changed except we moved from the Miami, Fl area to Mobile, Al. Anthony is getting so big, he turned two on November 22nd. It is an interesting time for me because this is the exact same age Dylan was that I can still remember being totally relaxed as a parent.

Dylan has now been an angel longer than he was living. It is sad when you realize that not only will you out live your child but your child has now not been part of your daily life longer than he ever was. I often wonder how different my life would be if Dylan had not passed away or better yet never been sick in the first place. I know that I would not think the worst every time Anthony gets sick and that I most definately would be the parent who thinks the children on the St. Jude commerical happen to other people and not me. But I also know that Dylan taught me more in his three years of life than anyone has ever taugth me. He continues today to guide me and watch over me.

I miss him every hour of every day. I will never stop missing him or thinking about him. I will never think that Dylan passing was fair or that one day someone will be able to explain to me why it happened in a way that could ever make sense. The only thing I do know is that Dylan is and always will be a part of my life and will continue to guide me down the right path in life; and that I will one day see him again.

Sarah

Hospital Information:

Patient Room: Playing with Might Max and patiently waiting for us to come and play with them!!!!

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Sarah's New Address
1756 Kendall Ct
Mobile, AL 36695

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E-mail Author: gehrkesa@yahoo.com

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