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Jennifer Haran Wilbur Welcome to our Patient Web Page. It has been provided to keep people updated.
Please take a moment and say the following prayer for Jen.
"Remember, most gracious Virgin Mary, never was it known that anyone who fled to thy protection or sought thy intercession was left unaided. Inspired by this confidence, I fly unto thee O Virgin of Virgins my mother. To thee I come, before thee I stand, sinful and sorrowful. Oh Mother of the Word Incarnate, despise not my petitions, but in thy mercy hear and answer them. Amen"
Journal
Wednesday, October 28, 2004 3:22 PM CDT I have been perhaps oddly silent on this webpage and have thus far refrained from posting any thoughts. Instead, I have found comfort in all the messages, knowing that my sister would enjoy the thought of her friends celebrating her contributions to their lives. Now that we have passed the 6 month mark of Jen's passing, I think it is necessary to acknowledge all of you and thank you for your kindness throughout these past many months.
I have had a hard time figuring out where to put all of this. I have tried using both logic and spirituality. I have tried surrounding myself with people and taking time in solitude. I have made little progress in answering any of the fundamental questions or easing the constant pain. I have, however, come to peace with the idea that my questions cannot be answered and that the pain (if that is even the right word)is just a new part of my being that can be managed.
One thing I have learned from all of this is how lucky my family is to have such wonderful friends. I met a woman in the ICU whose husband had broken his neck and was confined to a wheelchair for the rest of his life. She was an amazing person who gave so much of herself. I came to find out that she took the bus everyday to the hospital, that she didn't have a car, and that she rode her bike on Sundays when the bus wasn't running. She was always there, but by herself and trying to deal individually with thoughts of her new future.
We never sat alone in the waiting room of the ICU. We never had a day pass without several phone calls from concerned family and friends. We never missed a meal, thanks to friends and family, to Insight, and to the Mesa Police Department. I am so grateful to my lawschool friends for making trips to Phoenix and for occupying my time while I was in Tucson, to my old sorority sisters for their phone calls and their donations in Jen's name, to my old elementary and high school friends for taking me to dinner, calling, and sitting with me at hospice. I am forever grateful that my parents have such close friends throughout the country, through work and play who have helped them in dealing with their tragedy. I have so much respect for the Wilbur family and the way they rally to support each other and all of us who are connected to them. And finally, all of Jen's friends, there are so many of you, who have shared with us your memories and your own heartache, I cannot thank you enough for enriching her life. She was equally lucky in her blessings of friends.
My Love to All of You,
Abby
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Hospital Information: Patient Room: 310 Hospice of the Valley
6063 East Arbor Ave
Mesa, AZ
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